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So, considering this is Lemmy I'll clarify. I'm not talking about your neighbor who voted for Trump or your uncle who's always been a dick. I'm talking about coming in contact with a deep down evil scary human. I've only met one that I can think of. When I was 12 or 13 I spent a ton of time at my best friends house. He lived on a big beautiful rural property with his dad, a few brothers and always one or two random dudes. His dad was a good electrician and a biker. So, he always had friends/associates hanging around. So one day I was staying over for a long weekend and we met a new guy his dad was housing for a week or two. Dude was a real full fledged nazi. Had a swastika under his eye and tats all over most of his body. He was from California I guess. He was "working" with my buddies dad for awhile. Anyway, the main interaction I had with him was when he pulled my friend and I in for a sermon. We were going to go hunt squirrels and do rural kid shit. He stopped us outside and had us sit on the porch. Spent about 20 minutes explaining all the things youd imagine a nazi explains. Moslty about catholics, jews and blacks. My friends dad came out after awhile and told him we didn't need to hear that shit. He sent us away, but, I never forgot the look this dude had in his eyes. It was like the look of complete bordem mixed with extreme anger all the time.

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[–] snek_boi@lemmy.ml 2 points 6 days ago

I have a couple of examples, but here's one that's close to my heart (and that, sadly, hurts my heart).

I know someone who overheard the following conversation in a workshop on global policy. In one of the tables, there was a prominent doctor and one of the richest people on Earth.

The workshop went on as normal, until at some point the discussion turned to poverty and malnutrition. The rich person asked "What do you mean, malnutrition?" and the doctor politely explained the basics of acute hunger and chronic malnutrition. At the end of the explanation, the rich person asked "How can you believe any of that?" and explained that malnutrition was made up by "envious leftists" to steal from the rich.

The doctor tried to explain that malnutrition was real, and even pulled up their phone to search for a picture of a malnourished child. When the rich person saw the picture, they said "Well, I don't know about this, but if you're hungry, wouldn't you just go to a store and buy food? If someone can't figure that out, they're just not cut out to survive".

At that point, the conversation was cut short because the workshop organizers required them to move on.

You might be wondering who this rich person was. Here's what I'll tell you: their family extracted a lot of wealth in colonial times and, since then, they have used their power and wealth to remain powerful and wealthy.

[–] hanrahan@slrpnk.net 1 points 6 days ago* (last edited 6 days ago) (1 children)

I'm with Hannah Ardent on this, true evil is banal and its ubiqutious.

I'll buy some bullshit coffee and not donate that to MSF, I'd classify that as evil writ large, I have seen evil and its in the mirror each morning.. Spend money.on Spotify or save a life ?

An example, its estimated 600,000 children have died since US Aid was cut and an estimated 22 million deaths by 2030, how many before it's a holocaust? Think about the weight the deaths of 600,000 children (so far) should carry, vs the weight of what it actually carries. Then you need to start to question what evil actually is.

Aside from proeslitization, is the averge person that different to your swastika tattoo'd interaction ?

For example

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Shake_Hands_with_the_Devil_%28book%29?wprov=sfla1

Im an atheist, the quote on the inside the cover of Romeo's book ... Paraphrasibg "I know god exisits, because i have looked into the eyes of the devil, sat across from him and shaken his hand"

[–] Chippys_mittens@lemmy.world 1 points 4 days ago* (last edited 4 days ago)

US aid being cut is the same as a holocaust??? Is the US the only country that can aid these people? Is any form of self sufficiency possible between now and 2030? If aid being cut by the US is a holocaust, every country not picking up where we left off is just as guilty of it. What a ridiculous line of thinking. Not giving aid to people completely unrelated to your country is absolutely not the same as actively engaging in a genocide or ethnic cleasing.

I did get to meet a sociopath once while working construction. Some of the guys at the company liked to go to music festivals, and you meet some odd folks there. Well one of the guys made friends with this dude who was down on his luck for some reason or another and he got hired on with us.

He was manipulative, but not very good at it. He would shower some people with compliments, like constantly and for pointless things. But if he didn't think you were worth sucking up to he would absolutely refuse to do anything you asked (which he tried to do to the company second before he learned he owned part of the company). He would work slow, was on drugs frequently, and spent any money he got as soon as he could. Money he usually got a week early because he couldn't afford food since he would spend all his money.

Anyway not long after we fired him we learned he had been in prison for sexually assulting a minor, and was back in jail for something else.

Thankfully I wasn't important enough to get his attention, so I never got to interact with him directly.

[–] MyBrainHurts@piefed.ca 114 points 1 week ago (4 children)

I'm not sure about pure evil so much as sociopathic. I worked briefly in door to door sales, got taken to some high performer award celebration nonsense and was standing in one of those group circles as people were recounting war stories. "Give her the discount? Hell no. And then I realized she was too old to read what I was writing so I just added an extra year on to the contract!" Huge round of laughter, light applause.

To make it more gross... The discount was standard, we got no extra commission for having or not having it, was purely a free promotion to grease the wheels. He just didn't because, well, the old lady he'd scammed was too trusting.

I quit shortly after.

[–] Chippys_mittens@lemmy.world 55 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Yeah that type of sales in particular is filled with psychos. I did it very briefly when I was like 19. My trainer had a rule that if you get in the house, always piss in their toilet. Apparently he felt it gave him the image of control.

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[–] pressedhams@lemmy.blahaj.zone 92 points 1 week ago (36 children)

My grandmother used to bait a have a hart trap to catch local cats. She would let them finish whatever morsel she tempted them with, asked if they enjoyed their last meal, and would throw the trap in the pond. She would then call my cousin to come drag the trap out of the pond and bury the cat.

Is that evil?

[–] Chippys_mittens@lemmy.world 70 points 1 week ago

Yeah, thats really fucked up

[–] TubularTittyFrog@lemmy.world 51 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago) (5 children)

killing/tortuing animals is psychopathic behavior. especially if it is done deliberately.

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[–] stepan@lemmy.cafe 30 points 1 week ago

I'm sorry you've had such a monster be your grandmother

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[–] chiliedogg@lemmy.world 86 points 1 week ago (3 children)

I knew a guy in grad school who was a hard-core Trumper back in 2015/16 who thought I was too because we both owned guns and were white I guess.

Anyway - I was talking to him one day about an epidemiological analysis I was leading a team on for HHS. I'm a geographer, and our group was analyzing the demographic, spatial, socioeconomic, and temporal distribution of cases of gonorrhea in a major metropolitan area.

I explain that we're doing multivariate analysis on the demographic stuff because of all the issues caused by covariance showing "fake" correlation between gonorrhea and other variables. I explained that while the strongest indicator of gonorrhea in univariate analysis was whether or not you were black, that was actually an artifact from the fact that being black had a strong covariance with other variables like low income status, low employment rate, low education level, high population density, poor access to preventative healthcare, etc, and that when you took all the covariance into account there was no actual statistically significant correlation between gonorrhea and being black.

He then said something that was etched into my memory:

"It's just you and me here, [chilie]. You don't have to be all PC about thisbshit with me. We both know that just like how there's stupid breeds of dogs, there are stupid breeds of people, and it's a fucking disgrace that you can't study that honestly here."

That racist motherfucker has a Master's degree.

[–] melsaskca@lemmy.ca 2 points 6 days ago

There are smart people and stupid people but it has more to do with education and experience rather than breeding.

[–] TubularTittyFrog@lemmy.world 40 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago) (2 children)

yeah i dated a woman who was a Art professor at a liberal arts school. She was native Korean. I stupidly assumed she was liberal and progressive...

She was incredibly fucking racist. She would talk about how all asian men should be rounded up and shot. She hated black and hispanic people.

She was a white supremacist. Straight up told me how she loved how tall and pale my skin was. And how much she loved asian/white people because they had so much moeny and the other races were all poor pieces of shit. It was creepy as fuck.

Broke up with a few days later. She also threatened to beat the shit out of me when i broke up with her and I basically had to threaten her with violence... that shut her up real fast.

a lot of people we assume are not racist and ignorant... are deeply racist and ignorance. they just understand they can't be public about it without ruining their careers. i've also dated other so called 'progressive' women who were racist as fuck towards black/brown people, but not of the white supremacist variety. most the 'those people are scary' variety. but they saw nothing wrong with their own fear/hate of minorities in their personal life, as long as they lectured other people about how oppressed they were. it was so weird.

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[–] rudyharrelson@lemmy.radio 80 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago) (2 children)

I guess I could tell a story about the worst person I ever met. I don't know exactly what criteria elevate someone to the level of "evil" versus just being an awful, horrid person, so I'll let readers make that judgement.

It was 2010. I was 20 years old and needed a job. Through family networking, I was able to land a brief stint working with a distant cousin of mine who I'd never met before. Let's call him "James". I'm scheduled to work with him for about a week, traveling out of state to a small town in Virginia to do some maintenance on pools and such. Seems like a simple enough gig.

He pulls up to my house in his pickup truck to pick me up. Keep in mind I've never met this guy before in my life. We're not 10 minutes down the road when he starts dropping every racial slur you can think of talking about Obama and minorities and such. Guy was like a thesaurus of epithets.

Fast forward 5 or 6 hours that we've been driving. During this brief window of time I have heard this guy scream at his girlfriend over the phone about how she "better not be at the bar" or "hanging out with her friends". He has road raged at every inconsequential inconvenience, making multiple reckless, dangerous maneuvers to save virtually zero transit time. He has pinned every misfortune in his life on black people, immigrants, gays. Anyone but himself.

After this harrowing trip, we're finally at our destination and we can get to work. To say this guy was an abusive boss would not do it justice. His preferred method of communication was yelling. He'd light up a joint and smoke it very brazenly when there were children not particularly far away from us (one of the pools we worked on was at a community center where lots of kids would play). I don't have any problem with weed, but c'mon.

Each day when we were done with work, we'd pick out some place to eat. During this week-long stay in this small town, I witnessed multiple random acts of kindness by strangers. James had nothing but angry, hateful things to say about every single one. I saw a guy let some veterans cut in front of him in line at a Bojangles. "What a kiss-ass," James says. One day at a KFC, an elderly woman gives me and James a big bucket of chicken and biscuits because they got her order wrong and told her to keep it. "Old removed," says James after she walks away.

Every night after dinner he'd be at the bar getting hammered. Picking fights with other patrons and generally being a miserable pile of shit. One evening James gets up from the bar to go take a piss. A big biker guy James has been fucking with comes up to me and says, "Your friend's got a big mouth."

"Not my friend," I reply. "He's my boss, unfortunately. But if you and your biker buddies wanna drag him out back and beat the piss out of him, you ain't gonna hear me complain." Biker guy gives a big laugh and pats me on the back in an understanding way.

On the last day of the job, we've begun the drive back home. He sees a hotel with a pool that we're about to pass and unilaterally decides we're gonna try to fleece some hotel owner by doing some "maintenance" on the pool. He convinces this old man that the pool needs inspecting and the guy agrees to purchase our services. James fucks around for an hour doing virtually nothing to this pool and then charges the guy several hundred dollars. Brow beating and bullying him the entire time.

And to wrap it all up, he didn't pay me what we'd negotiated. Unfortunately I wasn't good at advocating for myself at this time in my life, so I just put up with it.

The silver lining to all this is I haven't seen or heard from him since then. He drove away and has never darkened my doorway in the 15 years since that dismal week. Good riddance.

[–] flabbergast@lemmy.world 40 points 1 week ago

The one comfort to take out of people like this: They will never ever be happy. The anger they constantly feed, will consume them wholly. It's just a shame about the people they hurt around them.

[–] Maestro@fedia.io 27 points 1 week ago

I laughed out loud at that biker remark 😄

[–] gigastasio@sh.itjust.works 55 points 1 week ago (2 children)

I knew a guy who was, by all objective standards, a musical genius. Brilliant songwriter and lyricist, prolific, could master an instrument in weeks, took to sound production and engineering like a fish to water. In a sane world, he’d have easily flourished in the music business and possibly even made it big, as he had the drive. He had a razor sharp wit and a relentless sense of humor, and in his lucid moments, was a blast to be around.

Except he was an irredeemable and unapologetic pedophile. He had previously done ten years for making and distributing cp by the time I had met him. When I brought it up he vehemently defended himself and his vice as being completely normal and natural, and even bragged about his “work.” He insisted that he did nothing wrong and seemed to genuinely not understand why people didn’t accept it.

Shortly after we parted ways, I learned that he got caught again hoarding thousands of pictures and videos. He’s currently in prison and will spend the rest of his life there.

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[–] Linktank@lemmy.today 40 points 1 week ago (2 children)

I knew a kid when I was growing up that was evil. He would talk people into doing things that were not okay, and then he would immediately turn on them and get an authority figure to get them into trouble, all while laughing and then retelling the story to anybody who would listen. He repeated this pattern throughout the entire time I knew him (many years), only escalating the entire time.

I'm guessing he's probably caused a death or two in his life by now, either directly or indirectly.

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[–] tree_frog_and_rain@lemmy.world 39 points 1 week ago

My older brother used to run around with a young man that was raised by racist bikers. The guy killed someone during a house robbery. And still I'm not sure that that person was irredeemably evil.

But I've also done time in prison. And was celled up with an old man that hurt a little girl. No acknowledgement, no remorse. Smiling, outgoing. But at the time I had no idea what he had done. And I had no idea that he was a sociopath until he opened up to me about cutting crow's tongues when he was young, because he had seen a talking crow at a circus. No empathy. As 'nice' as he seemed.

Looking back, he had that same look in his eyes that you can see in cult leaders and other sociopaths. When I watched the Nixium documentary with my partner, it was like that. A charismatic predator.

[–] daniskarma@lemmy.dbzer0.com 37 points 1 week ago (1 children)

I had a nazi say to my face that they wanted to kill me and hang me from a wall.

I suppose that counts to be a real pos.

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[–] ininewcrow@lemmy.ca 36 points 1 week ago (9 children)

I see American and Canadian politicians on TV news every day (I'm Canadian by the way)

The epitome of evil to me is in watching a group of wealthy affluent, influential people doing their absolute best day in and day out to keep their money and the money of those with way too much away from those who need it just to have a little bit of a life. They work to make us all miserable in order for them to keep having everything and to take even more from everyone else who have little or nothing.

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[–] DomeGuy@lemmy.world 35 points 1 week ago (3 children)

Why did you say "not your neighbor who voted for Trump" and then provide an example who absolutely [would have] voted for Trump?

[–] AmidFuror@fedia.io 46 points 1 week ago

OP is saying voting for Trump is insufficient to qualify as an example. However, it's not disqualifying.

[–] I_Has_A_Hat@lemmy.world 36 points 1 week ago (8 children)

Idiots and people with lead poisoning aren't inherently evil. They're just fucking stupid.

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[–] railway692@piefed.zip 31 points 1 week ago (2 children)

To me, evil is when you know the thing you're doing is morally wrong, you have the option to do anything else (including doing nothing at all) and you do it anyway.

I can make space for people who were trained on bad behavior.

I can make space for people doing the best they can in bad situations.

But I have met people who looked "normal" and could have easily not done the bad thing they were doing to someone else.

When you call them out, some will get defensive. They still have shame.

But the evil ones had this look like a child who knew they were getting away with something. And the something was hurting someone else.

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[–] FlashMobOfOne@lemmy.world 28 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago) (3 children)

I have two very irresponsible parents, and in one case they took a loan from my eldest brother (that I ended up helping them repay) because he involved a lawyer to compel them to act responsibly in paying him back.

I consider that a little bit evil.

I have another older brother. My parents signed their house over to him in exchange for $10,000 to pay some back taxes, on the verbal agreement that they can reside there until they pass away. (They're elderly.) Fast forward five years, and now I have to beg for money via GoFundMe to help with their legal defense because he's literally trying to render them homeless. (Thankfully we won.)

I consider him legit evil. Throwing your parents out into the streets is a legit evil thing to do, even if they are a pain in the ass. (And they are, they're 21 months into me "loaning" them my car so they can drive for DoorDash.)

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[–] Hegar@fedia.io 25 points 1 week ago (5 children)

I work in residential mental health and my boss is a progressive queer wiccan. I thought we'd get on great.

But then she started using an HR mistake i told her about to falsely bill medicare, and lied about not knowing in official emails. She tried to force me to pay for a company parking ticket and acted shocked when i wouldn't.

When a staff was punched in the head by a resident in the evening she took hours to arrive on site, told the staff they had to finish their shift before going to the hospital, then let them drive themself after a possible concussion, and tried to get staff to reclassify it as a non critical incident.

Not truly evil, but sociopathetically dishonest in her dealings, and about who she is.

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[–] LuigiMaoFrance@lemmy.ml 23 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago) (2 children)

Someone called me evil in their suicide note once, and ever since then I've been wondering if they were right.

[–] explodicle@sh.itjust.works 24 points 1 week ago

Nah evil people don't worry about that. They were probably just really sick, it's not your fault.

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[–] cyborganism@piefed.ca 22 points 1 week ago (5 children)

My parent told me of a family they knew who lived on a farm in their village. All of them were outright monsters. There were only brothers in that family. No daughters. They had barn cats and when they had kittens, they'd crush their skulls in their hands for fun. They loved torturing animals. They were pysically big and they imposed themselves on everyone and everyone was scared shitless of these dudes. One ended up in jail for killing someone early on for some banal reason, and another became a Hell's Angel motorcycle gang hitman essentially.

In a different kind of pure evil, I've always been affraid of Dennis in It's Always Sunny in Philadephia. He really scares me. No joke. The character is a real psychopath. I've met a few people like this in real life. They were the rich successful types. They gave me the fucking creeps. Manipulative, controlling, always working to get what the want and always have the advantage to have power over others.

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[–] Lasherz12@lemmy.world 21 points 1 week ago (2 children)

Never met what I'd describe as a truly evil person, but definitely a lot of narcissistic people whose selfishness and lack of self awareness have caused numerous instances of wondering if they were in fact just evil people.

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[–] Zak@lemmy.world 20 points 1 week ago

A couple of them.

One, I met when we were both five years old, and I knew then he would end up in prison. He helped beat someone to death when he was 19 and went to prison.

Another I met when I was a child and he was an adult. I knew he wasn't quite right, but I had no idea how bad it was. As a teenager, I had an encounter with him that almost turned violent. He later raped both his daughters and went to prison.

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