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Mainly because it's a side effect of hollywood/social media. But i'm also very happy with how I look, so i can't really judge people for trying to look different.
It is really a class issue. Elective cosmetic surgery can be tough to get covered under insurance. So it is an economic thing. Millions of people on SNAP with no healthcare while the elite play with aging and off label prescription medication usage.
I don't think people respond to it that way, but I think that there is something there.
There was a meme about ten years ago that went around showing a lot of celebrities before and after cosmetic surgeries with the caption “you’re not ugly, just poor” and that seems to align pretty closely with your sentiment.
and i am both ugly and poorly
And taking the time off work to recover is unrealistic for working class
I know this is not what people want to hear, but at least one aspect of it is misogyny.
There was this recent clip of Kate Beckinsale going around and people went batshit over how she had ruined her beautiful looks. The thing is, she definitely had things done before, just go look up pictures of her when she started her career. She was beautiful even then but in a more "normal" way. And no one was outraged or concerned for her then. But now she dares to not be as beautiful as she was before. People have a right to see her be hot!
Don't get me wrong, I wish there wasn't such a pressure for people to look perfect and have work done. But I think a huge part of the outrage is actually men feeling that they have a right to decide how a woman should look.
How does that rhyme with increasingly many men also being obsessed by their looks and more and more having surgery done? Hair implants are on the edge of surgery and very common for men. So are nosejobs, eyelids correction, eyebrows raising etc.
While some hatrid is probably misogyny, I have the feeling the divide between people liking "corrective" surgery and those who don't is more like the age old difference between "high culture" and "folk culture".
My personal opinion: it's usually ugly. Almost always do I find it ugly. Chances are I find a naturally aged person 40-65yo more beautiful than ones where it's super obvious they had stuff done. Especially the trend of getting stuff done super obviously really makes my stomach twist. The natural looking older people to me often just emit a "i'm only human", "i'm nice" vibe while the overedited body (including having supermany tattoos by the way) usually just screams insecurity, uncertainty, ... at me.
And excluding things like corrective surgery after accident or making boobs smaller because of backaches: I find plastic surgery just for the thrill of it an enormous waste of healthcare resources, while many people can't afford the most basic of health care.
How does that rhyme with increasingly many men also being obsessed by their looks and more and more having surgery done?
I don't see how that contradicts what I said? I talked about the pressure many people feel, not just women.
But most of the hatred I see online comes up when it's a woman. Do you have any examples of men receiving the kind of attention and hatred that Kate Beckinsale or Ariana Grande recently received for their changed looks? Maybe I'm just in my bubble and missed them.
Bcus peops hate wen others do things with their own bodies , specially wen those surgeries (or any other body modification) don't conform to societal expectations
Function >> Form
It's useless to paint your skin to make it look like something healthy, when the body's insides are not really so.
And if I am going to pay an exorbitant amount of money to have an extra layer of skin, it better be giving me +10 slash/pierce resist.
For me it is just manipulating your natural beauty. Hollywood conditions nearly all women that they must look attractive or risk losing roles that exist only based on attractiveness. So you see actresses like Kate Beckingsale or Lindsay Lohan doing this for some roles.
It's different than needing to get rid of loose skin from losing a lot of weight.
Because they are hypocritical And sexist. No one ever removed about the work men get. And all anyone removed about are tits and lips.
You're kidding me, right?
Cosmetic surgery is far more acceptable in women than men.
No it isn’t at all.
Depends on who you ask. But I can see why it goes against the values of various groups.
I don't hate it, your body your choice. In excess it looks silly but I don't have to look.
Hating? Are you sure you're reading that right?
Or maybe criticising/disliking when people make themselves look weird because their ego can't handle the fact we all get older.
I've known people who've had work done, small things, and no one would ever know.
What they didn't do was have their face pulled back so tight at 60 that they look like a caricature of their 20-year-old self.