Sombyr

I got accused of that once for simply saying I didn't feel welcome on Lemmy as a woman.

Actually, that's putting it lightly. What they said was a multi paragraph tirade attempting to trigger every trauma I had or might have explicitly because they thought "unwelcome" was still too welcome and, again explicitly stated by them, they thought women should suffer.

To be fair, they were downvoted to hell then banned for what they said, but in the same thread somebody accused me of being too extreme because I said I support job fairs for women, and they were very much the opposite of downvoted.

It seems to mostly be isolated to online spaces though. I bring up these "extremist" feminist topics IRL and people act like it was so obvious I didn't even need to say it, even men.

Speaking as a trans woman: This meme in particular? Just seems like lighthearted fun, using a joke to praise somebody for being a good person.
But sometimes people take it too far, and the limit for me is when it's treated like there are zero exceptions, all men are bad.
I didn't draw that line arbitrarily. I have lived experience that shows the "all men are trash" crowd are far less likely to treat me as a woman, and more likely to view me as a now vulnerable man who they have an opportunity to take revenge on. Things like laughing at me for having problems they'd be supporting other women for. My mom used to have a friend like that, who laughed and gave me the classic "welcome to being a woman" every time I brought up things like not being able to go home for a while one day because a car tried to follow me there, or when disruptions in my hormone treatment lead to pain and emotional instability.

Nowadays, it doesn't really bother me. To be fair, I lost a lot of weight recently, but that only happened when I stopped caring about my weight so much. For a long time I got stuck in a trap of worrying about my weight, which lead me to paying super close attention to what I was eating, which made me pay more attention to the slightest bit of hunger, which made me eat more because it was harder to resist knowing I felt so hungry, which looped around to making me worry about my weight more.
The solution for me was to surround myself with people who didn't care about my weight, as well as finding a doctor who didn't hound me about my weight, and only brought it up when I did to say "Yeah, you could certainly afford to lose weight, but you're already healthy."
Having so much less anxiety about it was 100% the thing that did it for me. I wouldn't even say I'm happier because I lost weight. Rather, the other way around. I lost weight because I'm happier.

Weird how men helping with house work are praised for it, yet women helping with providing and finances is somehow an affront to nature to some people.

In my personal experience, men understand consent perfectly well. They just pretend not to to gaslight you into believing it was a misunderstanding. There's a lot less consequences for a "misunderstanding" than a knowing violation of consent.
That's what it's really about. Escaping the consequences for their actions.

I'd been off and on using Linux for a while, never really able to convince myself to switch and going right back to windows after every minor inconvenience. However, as soon as windows 10's end of life was announced, I went straight to linux and haven't looked back. I had a laptop I had windows 11 on and I hated it so much I refuse to ever use it again.
I run Fedora with KDE Plasma on most of my PCs now.