choihanna

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[โ€“] choihanna@lemmy.zip 1 points 4 days ago (1 children)

Hmmm I'm not sure all straight men had a passing by men ๐Ÿคฃ

[โ€“] choihanna@lemmy.zip 1 points 4 days ago (1 children)

Uhhh I don't know any of that, I'm Korean and we don't have anything of that. Being trans is a separate thing from women, you're technically not a man but not a woman either. Also you can't be a biological woman, that's not how it works ๐Ÿคฃ if you have XY chromosomes you are a male it doesn't matter if you remove your genitals.

[โ€“] choihanna@lemmy.zip 1 points 4 days ago

Sexist? I'm just attracted to what I'm attracted to. I can't change that everyone has a type

[โ€“] choihanna@lemmy.zip 1 points 4 days ago

Honestly I might give up on it, it's not something that you really need to live ๐Ÿคท๐Ÿปโ€โ™€๏ธ

[โ€“] choihanna@lemmy.zip 1 points 4 days ago

I don't have these kinds of problems when I don't disclose. And I'm not saying that I've dated anyone without disclosing but every male friend I had did end up trying to date me (my friends don't know about it). I notice the difference in behavior, when they don't know what I am they act as if I was the last glass of water in the desert.

[โ€“] choihanna@lemmy.zip 2 points 4 days ago (1 children)

Okay the issue here is, I've done this before and it didn't work. And right now I'm not on a stage where I want to expose my transness to my social circle, what's most likely to happen if I tell a guy who is into me is that he will be shocked and tell a lot of people. Also there's barely any men interested in my hobbies unless they're gay

[โ€“] choihanna@lemmy.zip 0 points 4 days ago

Why match then? Lol

[โ€“] choihanna@lemmy.zip 1 points 4 days ago (3 children)

I've been on puberty blockers for 9 years and hormones for 7 years. Also I don't identify as a woman, I'm Asian I know Americans and Europeans have a different view but at least in my country identifying as a woman is not a thing?

[โ€“] choihanna@lemmy.zip 2 points 4 days ago

Uhhh yes, but maybe I'm confused about why they don't give signals of not being a good fit untill they stop talking out of nowhere. Maybe it's my personality I don't know

[โ€“] choihanna@lemmy.zip 2 points 4 days ago* (last edited 4 days ago) (2 children)

Honestly? No, my hobbies are gardening, reading and writing, and most guys are into videogames and gym. Like all of them it just feels so stupid how a lot of them like those two things. But at the same time I might not see a man with my same hobbies as masculine, which is a huge turn off for me.

[โ€“] choihanna@lemmy.zip 1 points 4 days ago (5 children)

I mean the fact that I'm passing doesn't mean I'm not still a male. If they're okay with my appearance why are they turned off by me stating a truth

[โ€“] choihanna@lemmy.zip 2 points 4 days ago (5 children)

But sexuality is not just a label, and it sounds like internalized homophobia. If you're attracted to a male of any kind you're at least bisexual and there's nothing wrong with it.

 

So before anything I'm a trans woman (20), I do not claim to be a real woman or try to put women down or mock them. So please I'd like to ask you to abstein from comments about it because I already know what I am.

I've been trying dating apps because they feel safer than just dating people from your daily life when I was a teen (friends and classmates).

I do have a note on my profile that notifies these men about what I am before they can chat with me, some unmatch, others will say bad stuff before leaving, but another big amount stay. Everything goes fine we chat for a long time, we have a few dates, but in the end they all seem to lose interest at some point.

It just makes me so tired of meeting a lot of different men every month. I don't understand what they want.

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