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As a Dad who doesn't want more pets, I'd just like to clear something up.
We don't dislike animals. Our heart doesn't grow three sizes when you bring one home and catch us cuddling with it two days later.
I fucking LOVE animals, and I will cuddle the fuck out of anything that would let me, but I also know that nobody else in the house will make sure it's fed and cleaned up after. So, no you can't bring another animal home because I've already got enough on my plate, but when you do it anyway, be prepared for it to be MY little buddy.
Exactly. I will add that as much as I love animals I really hate the loss of them to the point I basically don't want to get them each time. All the get lots of animals folks seem super heartless in some ways. Yeah your sad but not I never want to go through it again sad. I also feel guilty that I can never give the animals quite enough. Not enough walkies. Not giving them enough attention.
You gotta move on through the grief, accept that they're no longer with you, but that you gave them the best life you could. And maybe realize that giving another pet a good life doesn't mean you're replacing or forgetting your last one. Some people are just better at it than others, they aren't being heartless.
That said, people who get a new dog a week or two after their previous one died are insane to me. That just feels disrespectful.
Moving through the grief is different than deciding to take on another pet. You do what you want with your heart, and I'll do what I want with mine, thanks.
I never said anywhere that anybody needed to take on another pet. All I said was, essentially, it's okay to do and people aren't heartless for doing it.