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Heya Everyone, new Mega time and for it, I'm gonna advertise a TTRPG system called Thirsty Sword Lesbians.

A sword duel can end in kissing, a witch can gain her power by helping others find love, and an entire campaign can be built around wandering matchmakers flying from system to system.

Thirsty Sword Lesbians is a roleplaying game for telling queer stories with friends. If you love angsty disaster lesbians with swords, you have come to the right place.

In this book, youโ€™ll find:

Flirting, sword-fighting, and zingers in a system designed for both narrative drama and player safety.

An innovative take on the Powered by the Apocalypse family of games.

Nine character types, each focusing on a particular emotional conflict: Beast, Chosen, Devoted, Infamous, Nature Witch, Scoundrel, Seeker, Spooky Witch, and Trickster.

Guidance and support for running the game, including how to make appealing adversaries, set the tone, pace the game, and structure play.

Tools to create your own settings and stories, alongside a dozen pre-written options including the cyberpunk Neon City 2099, steamfunk poets battling oppression as Les Violettes Dangereuses, laser swords and intrigue in the Starcross Galaxy, and more.

World building worksheet for custom scenarios and starting scenario seeds to play with: Best Day of Their Lives, The Constellation Festival, Gal Paladins, and Sword Lesbians of the Three Houses Variant rules to highlight different identities, emotional connections, and setting elements.

Strategies to adapt any setting where swords cross and hearts race for Thirsty Sword Lesbians.

Here's a link to their website, I did copy everything over directly from it because I put off writing the Mega this week. I was drawing a blank on what I wanted to talk about. catgirl-huh

https://evilhat.com/product/thirsty-sword-lesbians/

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[โ€“] AshenWolf@hexbear.net 1 points 2 months ago (2 children)

I know I've been doing this for a year, and this is the question of one who's been doing this for a week, but what gender-affirming stuff can I do? I really need to get back to taking care of myself in some sort of way, and I don't have energy to do much, but I really need to try.

cw: dysphoria, anxiety, depressionI really need to get better, because I hurt. My anxiety was already a mess, and I was feeling particularly depressed, and my dysphoria has been worse and hasn't really gotten better (I feel like I'm backsliding in that regard, I look and feel disgusting). Now though, I see one thing, and I did have some body dysphoria I feel like, but it was the kind of thing where it wasn't a priority, and I felt like it would depend on that partners might want. Anyways, I see this thing, and it sets me off, and now it's really bad, and I can't get it to go away.

I have work to do this week and I'm struggling to get it done, this is all really so overwhelming. I really just want to lie in bed and sleep it all off, probably while wishing I had someone there with me because I've been feeling really lonely again. I was genuinely excited to make a mega post on my coming-out tranniversary, and how much I've done, and how much better things are now. I can probably still do that, it's just now I have the looming context of this. I really hope this goes away by then. I love how I'm thinking about a megathread post and not myself.

[โ€“] Seryph@lemmygrad.ml 1 points 2 months ago (1 children)

Simple stuff I tend to like is just brushing and styling my hair, or getting out of work/school clothes into some casual femme stuff as soon as I'm home.

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but it was the kind of thing where it wasnโ€™t a priority

Things that aren't priorities now will become priorities later. Especially when it's dysphoria. It's usually not a "new" feeling, it's just become more immediate. But regardless it sucks every time it happens, especially when it comes after a period of feeling better. I've been there, I hope you can find some comfort in something despite it ๐Ÿซ‚

I felt like it would depend on that partners might want.

This though, kill that shit right fucking now. What a partner wants regarding your body is not more important than what you want. Every concession you make about it can and will eat at you and get worse as time goes by. I understand the impulse to want to be perfect for them, to make yourself fit what they want so that they'll love you and won't leave. But that's not healthy for you, you want someone who loves you for you, not the front you put up to make them love you.

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[โ€“] AshenWolf@hexbear.net 1 points 2 months ago (3 children)
[โ€“] Boynomoder@hexbear.net 1 points 2 months ago (1 children)
[โ€“] Boynomoder@hexbear.net 1 points 2 months ago (1 children)

Now I need to make an EVisa account doggirl-gloom

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[โ€“] 0x2640@hexbear.net 1 points 2 months ago (6 children)
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[โ€“] Seryph@lemmygrad.ml 1 points 2 months ago (2 children)

Its been about a month since I got my haircut, and now that its grown a little I've realised that rn my hair is exactly what I wanted when I was a little kid. Only took like 20 years but I got it, eventually. Nowadays I like it longer, but it's still nice to be at this length from time to time, and I love my current style regardless. It's cute and a little boyish but in a femme way and I love it.

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[โ€“] Arahnya@hexbear.net 1 points 2 months ago

I love being a transmasc lesbian ๐Ÿฅฐ

Ugh, now I gotta find a roommate and/or a new place to live cause I got hired. What a pain in the ass

[โ€“] Tommasi@hexbear.net 1 points 2 months ago

Thinking about creating a witch coven but i don't believe in witches it just sounds cool

[โ€“] AshenWolf@hexbear.net 1 points 2 months ago (7 children)

Hey, just wanted to put this out there in case it comes up for anyone, but I'm sort of taking a break from most stuff on matrix, and probably greatly decreasing my activity here as well. I've kind of realizing I was letting it become a detriment to my mental health, which is not why I'm on here. The downsides of being overwhelmed in the environments started to outweigh the community for me, so I'm taking a break. I won't be gone forever, and you might see me lurking, or dropping the occasional comment from time to time, but I probably wouldn't expect further interaction from me for a bit. If you need or want to reach me, please feel free to DM me on matrix. It's much easier for me to manage one on one now, which is ironic because I used to be a completely other way, but here we are.

So yeah, that's all I've got to say. Again, I will be back! I just need a bit of a break from some social stuff for a bit. My matrix account is linked to my profile here as well, and I'm still in the rooms, so hopefully it shouldn't prove too much of an issue if you want/need to reach me. With that, I'll wish you all a wonderful day cat-trans

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[โ€“] Boynomoder@hexbear.net 1 points 2 months ago

I wish I could look in the mirror and see a girl madeline-scared

[โ€“] Disaster_of_Passion@hexbear.net 1 points 2 months ago (4 children)
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[โ€“] MusicOwl@hexbear.net 1 points 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago) (1 children)
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[โ€“] AshenWolf@hexbear.net 1 points 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago) (1 children)

Looking into trans groups in my region is just like: "here's one gay bar** in distant city, idk that's all I got there really isn't much to do here".

Edit: I should clarify, everything I put in quotes is roughly what websites tend to say, I'm not just saying those are my thoughts.

Society is making me become the organizer, and I don't know for the life of me how to organize. I even caved (since I had already), and looked to see if there were any regional trans discords. Absolutely nothing. I am now convinced that trans people actually do not exist here, and that I am an enigma in the face of some sort of anti-trans weapon of mass psychological destruction.

Another edit: I hate discord with a burning passion, but I already had to create an account for something, so I checked.

**Best part is that I would absolutely hate a bar, and would choose not going even if it was my only option doggirl-lol doggirl-tears

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[โ€“] BountifulEggnog@hexbear.net 1 points 2 months ago (1 children)

Oh damn I've heard of sword lesbians

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[โ€“] Wmill@hexbear.net 1 points 2 months ago (7 children)

Was watching a tiktok where this one lady was explaining how bad hetro dating has been getting among the zoomers. Perverts/dehumanizing behavior etc I think it might have to do with all the sexism. Shit seems grim for straight women fr I do not envy them one bit

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[โ€“] JohnBrownsBussy2@hexbear.net 1 points 2 months ago (4 children)

So, as an update, I am planning to move in with my beau, but that's be after my current lease/job contract expires at the end of July so we have plenty of time to be completely firm on that and develop our relationship. So, it will not be after just one date (we'd been talking for weeks and had a video date as well anyways). I don't know why I feel the need to justify this, but I do.

I know it's corny, but it's fun being in love.

catgirl-heart

[โ€“] mendiCAN@hexbear.net 1 points 2 months ago

I'm so excited for you aaaaaaaaaaa! thank you for the update!

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[โ€“] EstraDoll@hexbear.net 1 points 2 months ago (3 children)

incoherent dysphoria venting, just imagine me going off about it in your head

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[โ€“] Wmill@hexbear.net 1 points 2 months ago

~~Political~~ girl power grows out of a barrel of a gun

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