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Trans Resistance Network // A US-based mutual aid organization to help trans people facing state violence and legal discrimination.
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My first trans joy (europe.pub)

submitted 1 week ago by Una to c/mtf@lemmy.blahaj.zone

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Hi! I'm not yet transitioning because transphobia and I'm scared, but I'm doing small steps and growing my hair and I got small bangs, by recommendation from trans women on social media, and this is first time I was able to look at myself and see androgynous /fem person and it makes me happy, unfortunately others don't see me such but I'm at the beginning of my self discovery. Honestly I feel happy, hope you are having great day 🩷🩷 Honestly, what do y'all think about me, am I ugly? Will I look beautiful after transition?

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[–] Chefdano3@lemm.ee 2 points 1 week ago (1 children)

I think there are 2 important things here to remember. 1: happiness is not measured by what other people think about you, but by what you think of you. If you like this new change, then that's awesome. Enjoy liking the new look you found, and don't let other people's dislike of it discourage you from enjoying it.

2: Major change is just the accumulation of smaller incremental changes. I wouldn't worry so much about what you will look like at the end, but focus on the little changes you make to find the ones you like, and ones you don't like. Eventually you'll land on what you are looking for and be able to look back and see the major change for what it is, but you're just starting your discovery now, no need to rush to the end.

and fwiw... I don't think you're ugly. You're def a cutie.

[–] Una 1 points 1 week ago

Yeah, I wouldn't say i don't care about other opinions at all but I do not live for others approval. I care about opinions so much that I don't want to be seen as an outlier or in the middle of attention but I do not live for other approval and don't concern myself what people think I look like. And thank you I'm sure you are cute too