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General trans community.
Rules:
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Follow all blahaj.zone rules
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All posts must be trans-related. Other queer-related posts go to c/lgbtq.
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Don't post negative, depressing news articles about trans issues unless there is a call to action or a way to help.
Resources:
Best resource: https://github.com/cvyl/awesome-transgender Site with links to resources for just about anything.
Trevor Project: crisis mental health services for LGBTQ people, lots of helpful information and resources: https://www.thetrevorproject.org/
The Gender Dysphoria Bible: useful info on various aspects of gender dysphoria: https://genderdysphoria.fyi/en
StainedGlassWoman: Various useful essays on trans topics: https://stainedglasswoman.substack.com/
Trans resources: https://trans-resources.info/
[USA] Resources for trans people in the South: https://southernequality.org/resources/transinthesouth/#provider-map
[USA] Report discrimination: https://action.aclu.org/legal-intake/report-lgbtqhiv-discrimination
[USA] Keep track on trans legislation and news: https://www.erininthemorning.com/
[GERMANY] Bundesverband Trans: Find medical trans resources: https://www.bundesverband-trans.de/publikationen/leitfaden-fuer-behandlungssuchende/
[GERMANY] Trans DB: Insurance information (may be outdated): https://transdb.de/
[GERMANY] Deutsche Gesellschaft für Transidentität und Intersexualität: They have contact information for their advice centers and some general information for trans and intersex people. They also do activism: dgti.org
*this is a work in progress, and these resources are courtesy of users like you! if you have a resource that helped you out in your trans journey, comment below in the pinned post and I'll add here to pass it on
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I had a new, unusual, and unpleasant experience - being a closeted trans femme at a bachelor party.
My brother is getting married this weekend, and I am the “best man”. The irony is overwhelming lol. I’m not out to any of my family, nor will I be at any point in the near future. I strongly suspect that coming out to them will mean the end of those relationships (my family are all devout conservative Catholics). But my brother and I are close in age and grew up together, so I’m very happy to have a place of honor in his wedding. It’s just a weird thing, being surrounded by men, who think I am one too.
If anything, the experience has made me so sure that I am not a man. If that’s a representative slice of men my age, then being a man is something I want nothing to do with.
The dissonance of going from being at home, where my wife genders me correctly and I’m starting to come out to friends, to going back to see my family, is jarring.
In addition, I have my estrogen! Which is exciting! I can’t start taking it yet though, because I need to freeze sperm, since my wife and I want to have kids. I’m getting nervous and kind of antsy though - I don’t know how much the whole thing is going to cost, or if my sperm are even healthy, or if it’ll be covered by my insurance. So I’m worried that it’s going to be a whole ordeal, and it’s the only thing holding me back from starting my HRT.
It has been and is going to be a weird period of time, but I’m hoping August will be a little more calm.
I have gone through the exact same experience with my own family (devout Methodist on one side, and Portuguese Catholic on the other), and at my brother's bachelor party. I knew a long time ago that I was trans, and I was his "best man" at this wedding almost 8 years ago. It was very much an unpleasant experience to me. Everyone else thought it was totally normal to them. It is absolutely self-reinforcing to live that experience, and I'm glad we drew the same conclusions from it. It validates my own views of life. Hang in there, sister. Life gets so much better from here.