Trans
General trans community.
Rules:
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Follow all blahaj.zone rules
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All posts must be trans-related. Other queer-related posts go to c/lgbtq.
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Don't post negative, depressing news articles about trans issues unless there is a call to action or a way to help.
Resources:
Best resource: https://github.com/cvyl/awesome-transgender Site with links to resources for just about anything.
Trevor Project: crisis mental health services for LGBTQ people, lots of helpful information and resources: https://www.thetrevorproject.org/
The Gender Dysphoria Bible: useful info on various aspects of gender dysphoria: https://genderdysphoria.fyi/en
StainedGlassWoman: Various useful essays on trans topics: https://stainedglasswoman.substack.com/
Trans resources: https://trans-resources.info/
[USA] Resources for trans people in the South: https://southernequality.org/resources/transinthesouth/#provider-map
[USA] Report discrimination: https://action.aclu.org/legal-intake/report-lgbtqhiv-discrimination
[USA] Keep track on trans legislation and news: https://www.erininthemorning.com/
[GERMANY] Bundesverband Trans: Find medical trans resources: https://www.bundesverband-trans.de/publikationen/leitfaden-fuer-behandlungssuchende/
[GERMANY] Trans DB: Insurance information (may be outdated): https://transdb.de/
[GERMANY] Deutsche Gesellschaft für Transidentität und Intersexualität: They have contact information for their advice centers and some general information for trans and intersex people. They also do activism: dgti.org
*this is a work in progress, and these resources are courtesy of users like you! if you have a resource that helped you out in your trans journey, comment below in the pinned post and I'll add here to pass it on
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It's not selfish, it's essential.
I wish it were that simple, but things are extremely complicated for us right now.
I'm not trying to say what you should do, sorry if it comes over that way. I stand by the point that taking the meds you need is not self-centered or selfish. Lady, I might not know you very well at all, but I know you are not that.
I know, and if it were 13 years ago I'd absolutely have just gone ahead with it with no consideration for the consequences. But, I have 4 kids and live in a surprisingly conservative part of a small town. Norway goes all in on pride, but most people have very old fashioned views on trans folk.
While I'm sure my own children would be very accepting, I know that my eldest would get into fist fights at school to defend me (her spirit animal is the honey badger), and my youngest kids would loose friends because of conservative parents.
My partner is very accepting of trans women, but has also been very clear about not wanting a relationship with a woman (for purely physical reasons). And because neither of us are able to provide for the kids on our own, I'd essentially be trapping her and condemning her to watching the person she fell in love with slowly being replaced by someone who doesn't make her feel safe and whome she has no physical attraction to.
On top of this I have no IRL social network or support. I'd be doing it alone
Of course I could always just take the hormones and lumberjack mode until I can't. But if I'm being honest the until I can't might not take that long. I only took it for 2 months and running and jumping are already uncomfortable.
It's just a lot. I'll probably end up going through with it and being happier for it, but it's going to require a lot of sacrifice. And a fair amount of conflict.
Hey thanks for opening up. I know you must have thought through any and every possible solution. Like me screaming "you should fucking move" is not going to help because i assume if you could you would. I come from a conservative rural shithole and I'd burn every building there to the ground if i was forced to move back there. Queer community has and continues to save my life. I hope you can find some IRL.
We have to give up so much in order to transition, so much security and safety and stability. All because other people want to have a say in how we live our lives. I want better for all of us.
Honestly, its not that the town I live in is conservative. It's just that the part of it I live in is. Which is no big deal for me because I can just hang out in different parts of town. But my kids go to school here. They're trapped. Also Norway is generally quite progressive, but they have a weird hang up when it comes to trans folk specifically.
My stupid ass bought a flat here, so it's going to be a few years before I can afford to move.
Sounds like you realised you were trans at a pretty inopportune time. I'm sorry friend.
Yeah, it sucks. But if I'd realised earlier, I wouldn't have my kids. So it sucks, but also not as much as it could.
Lesson learned, never move to the conservative part of town because there's a good chance you're much gayer than you think. <3
It's one of the cheapest parts of town. The other cheapest part is worse 😕