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Is Online Therapy ok? (lemmy.today)

submitted 1 week ago by Remy@lemmy.today to c/adhd@lemmy.world

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I really think that I need therapy and my family also think so and tells me this in regular intervals.

But there are two main blockers with getting therapy:

Extreme long waiting list's, estimated waiting times of 1-3 years
I am so bad at doing stuff on time / arriving at appointment's, that this will fail any therapy where I have to arrive physically

I am thinking about getting online therapy, on a platform like for example BetterHelp, but I always hear bad things about these platforms.

Do anyone here as experience with such platforms? Do they keep the conversations private or sell them?

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[–] christian@lemmy.ml 2 points 1 week ago (1 children)

I am so bad at doing stuff on time / arriving at appointment's, that this will fail any therapy where I have to arrive physically

Weirdly enough I end up at the opposite end. Before I have a rapport with someone I will worry way too much about being late, so I'll set an alarm earlier than needed and feel internal pressure to be out the door at a time that can account for absurdly bad traffic and I'll usually end up awkwardly sitting in the waiting room for half an hour. Once I know someone will cut me some slack I will be more relaxed until I actually am late for one, at which point I worry about if I do it again soon after it might look like a habit and I'm temporarily back to super-careful. The most helpful thing a counselor ever did for me was forget to show up for one in our first couple weeks, from there out it felt like I get a mulligan if something goes wrong.

If all I have to do is sit in front of my computer then my brain won't let me feel pressed until a few minutes before, and then sometimes distractions happen.

[–] pugnaciousfarter@literature.cafe 1 points 5 days ago

I feel the same way. I wonder if it's a trauma response - overcompensating so as to not disappoint the person infront of me.