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Programmers, with whom I'd worked with my early career (about a dozen years) are particularly prone to mansplaining. The worst case was a candidate for a "no assholes rule" dismissal who in the course of one company pizza lunch:
I mentioned the "no assholes rule" I think? He was later canned for being an asshole, despite his apparently very formidable technical skills.
Hahahha reminds of a particular work arsehole who tried to lecture me on a technical task and told me to read a piece of documentation he found on the company intranet. I told him to look up who authored the fucking thing (me)
That happens so often it's scary. "Well, according to Rutland and co. you..." "I'm the Rutland in 'Rutland and co...'"
I swear the higher incidence of neurodivergence among programmers has something to do with the increased likelihood of their mansplaining, something about the pedantic, socially-unaware, info-dumping often comes across that way 🫠
There's some of that, but there is also a huge chunk of egotism and misogyny.
Source: ASD tech married to an ADHD dev.
I think there's some of that. These would be the "geek" styles, though. Not the brodude types.
I like the geek programmers. (I can read past the awkwardness.) Brodude types, though, make my skin crawl.
oh I know exactly what you mean 😵 the brodude types can be awful even to one another, the incessant talking over one another makes me want to scream, lol
Yeah, hence my reference to the "no assholes rule" dismissal. This guy was a brodude. This predated all the social media world, but if it had been today he'd have totally been some kind of startup founder "disrupting" something by "moving fast and breaking things" while callously destroying lives for a buck.
🤢🤢🤢 yikes