It's often hard for neurotypical people to understand this, which I get. But it really can be traumatic
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That's a medical trauma, yes. But the situation described here is a light bruise at best.
Yes, these terms encompass a range of severities, but at some point you have to say "No, Terry, a broken nail is not a trauma, and you can't go to the emergency room because of it".
People love the feeling of being super empathetic if they support this language. And others love the feeling of self victimization.
And the actual victims don't get the attention they need, because Terry cries about having made a bad joke yesterday.
Why are you being dismissive of what's actually being described, which is something happening over and over again? It's not one bad joke the original poster is crying over. It's the "over and over again."
You're saying you can look at the cause of the injury and say what the injury is without checking for symptoms or even listening to the entire cause of injury.
Even if you won't accept that social rejection and isolation over an entire childhood can cause trauma, can you at least give people with a social disability the smallest amount of leeway when describing their experiences and not react so dismissively in a mental health community?
Autistic people get fucked up well into adulthood by being rejected by their peers for reasons they can't comprehend over the course of many years.
It doesn't seem like reason is going to win out here.
Somebody who picks a single narrow definition for a word and then applies that narrow definition to every instance even remotely related ( when other, more contextually correct definitions exist and have been pointed out ) isn't working with a full deck, intentionally or otherwise.
You can't reason somebody out of a position they didn't reason themselves in to.
My experiences being picked on in school and not fitting in warped my entire personality and caused me to have problems with social situations well into adulthood. Some of which I'm still dealing with to this day. Hardly "a light bruise". I'm sorry for whatever happened to you that makes you feel like people that didn't suffer as badly don't deserve to be taken seriously but social issues can absolutely be classified as trauma. It's not a contest.