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For context, I’m circumcised and expecting a son and my wife and I are torn about the circ. We’re American so from a cultural standpoint circumcision is the default choice. Thing is, there’s no real benefit besides practicing a religion we don’t believe in, and I’m uncomfortable about cutting the tip of my son’s dick off.

On the other side, I’ve met a guy who was bullied in high school so bad for it he got a circ as an adult. Apparently crazy painful recovery. I’ve also talked to women who are generally grossed out by uncircumcised men. I don’t want to make him feel like something’s wrong with him his whole life because I was uncomfortable with the idea.

From a moral standpoint I’m against it, but from a social and cultural standpoint I feel like I should do it? It’s a crappy situation. If there’s any uncircumcised American men who want to talk about their penis I’m all ears.

Edit: I really appreciate everyone’s responses I never expected to hear from so many people. With the decision hinging on social and cultural norms it’s been really helpful to be able to take the temperature like this. I obviously need to talk to my wife, but given the overwhelming support of dick hats I don’t thing we’re going to do it. Thanks, lemmings!

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[–] amorpheus@lemmy.world 3 points 1 week ago (1 children)

When I read this, it seemed like an attempt at a pithy comment that included a logical fallacy but I couldn't put my finger on it.

It was. But I also think it boils the topic down pretty well. One thing you seemed to have skipped is that there are plenty of circumcised people expressing regret. So the resulting logic table is very straightforward.

People who went through the procedure at a time in life where they can remember both also corroborate this - while it's generally not the end of the world, nobody wants to be circumcised unless it's all they've known.

[–] porcoesphino@mander.xyz 2 points 1 week ago

Great reply, thanks.

nobody wants to be circumcised unless it's all they've known

Yeah, that's pretty solid. With what I've learnt in the last 24 or so hours (so I'm a clear expert) it seems like it could still be true that young children will not remember and that they heal differently so that there isn't a diminishing feeling or the diminished feeling only happens with botched operations / poor healing or an unlucky few. None of those arguments seem solid though. I'm curious to see info on those points if anyone has it