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Sometimes it doesn't matter how hard you work, your going to get laid off either way.
Just showing up can sometimes make the difference.
Your not paid to be a software developer. Your being paid to be a problem solver.

There's a show I still listen to, that's 20+ years old and hasn't made any new episodes for 6 years. I don't quite vibe with the newer episodes so I don't listen to them. I however, very annually and religiously, have listened to the backlog of the older shows from 2003 - 2005, 2006 - 2008 respectively. It's to a point where I know them completely by heart and know what to expect per episode.

I've listened to them at various points in my life and at different locations. They are to me, like time capsules, that rewind me back to periods in time that make me think a lot of where I was then, where things were in general, what could've been, what would've been .etc

I just can't seem to get tired of them, despite me having tried to take lengthy breaks, to listen to newer things along the way. I listen to them to sleep to, they've become white noise. The longer I go listening to them however, the more times I'm reminded of various things that isn't just the past. Things like "oh, I was at this point with someone when i listened to this episode" so it has kindof served as a callback of some sorts. Amazing how that works. That's how I resonate a lot with music in general is that I can recall things based on what songs I've listened to, that'll remind me of things based on where I've listened to them and what my surroundings were.

And this show is great at that too.

The scenario is like this: boyfriend has unpaid debt (either from loansharks or the bank themselves) however he died from a terminal illness before debt collectors can get to him, but does his death automatically "erase" the unpaid debt he owes as he's gone?

The thing is, they can't pursue him as he's literally dead. The contract he signed prior to death only bares his name (meaning the debt can't be passed down to either his girlfriend or family) as he's the only signatory listed on paper (while his family are not signatories).

Debt collectors or loansharks show up to his residence only finding out from his girlfriend that he passed away (she has his death certificate to prove it), she reiterates that his debt can't be paid the "conventional" way as he's no longer alive to do that.

I love long-form videos that tell information and stories. Documentaries about most any topics, especially ones that last an hour or more, are my bread and butter. But when I’m using YouTube on my TV, I can’t tell from thumbnails what the quality of a channel is. Sometimes I find gold, but other times it’s obvious they’re using an AI voice over or AI imagery and I immediately turn it off. I’m so tired of trudging through the slop, even though it’s just beginning.

So for now, I figure I’ll check with y’all - do you have any preferred/recommended channels that make the sort of video I’m looking for, that are still human-made? I’d love to hear about them.

Even if they're not difficult, they still feel like a burden, and I'm very worried that I won't have time to do them or that I'll forget about them. I either put them off but constantly think about them, or I try to get them done as quickly as possible and get very irritated when something prevents me from doing them. I can never relax if I have things to do, even if they're not urgent; they're still a pain in my ass. I don't know why I feel this way, and I think this is the reason why I avoid difficulties and my life sucks so much.

cross-posted from: https://reddthat.com/post/62261694

Not simultaneously, just one of each category in how they feel.

I came here a few weeks ago after many years of reddit. Altogether I find discussions I enjoy, however, the posts and comments noticeably lean, well, tankie (I didn’t know that term before I came here). It’s not that I am looking for an echo chamber, but I also don’t want to spend my time reading propaganda. I’m really curious about a lot of things outside politics, as well as the opinions and arguments of reasonable people across the political spectrum, but I don’t want to listen to the boring canned lies of fascists and tankies. I realized that people celebrating communist dictators trigger me, and this is something I didn’t have to deal with before I started reading lemmy, I didn’t even know this type existed.
I also notice that accounts created just a few hours in advance come from other instances to brigade political posts. Because of how lemmy works, I can block individual users or communities, but not individual instances. Is there an instance that could be a “safe space” from this kind of brigading and tankie spam? Or a way to use the internet to read interesting things now that blogs died and then Reddit became whatever it became?

I've been wondering, if you never learned cursive writing, how do you sign your name, like on a lease or other place where you have to sign?

Do you just print your name like you would anything else? Or maybe you looked up how to write just the cursive letters needed for your signature? Or maybe invented a way to sort of connect your printed letters together so it looks like a signature? Or ... ?

edit: Specifically hoping to hear from people who did not learn to write cursive, please indicate if that applies in your answer. Thanks

cross-posted from: https://discuss.tchncs.de/post/56895639

My friend who uses google wants to share their calendar (read-only). I don't use google. How can they do that?

I live at home and am gonna get a job. Despite our President here, life so far is OK for me. However, I do wanna see the world and at least travel to Japan, Norway, Sweden, or the Netherlands

https://odysee.com/

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Odysee

Too much of a Nazi bar problem or a decent YouTube alternative? Thinly veiled American capitalism or respectable if not entirely unproblematic attempt at disturbing the monopoly?

Yes I am very knowingly and purposefully asking how "we" feel about it.

Sorry if it's a dumb question. I'm not even knocking or shaming, I just think they're really funny and want to see more if you know of them. Not accounts that downvote, accounts that ONLY downvote. Rare ones. Like weapons-grade haters.

I'd collect them in my user tags. And like, just observe what they respond to.

People just adding others in pseudo-friendships, friendships that don't really mean anything and people treating others like they're a service or speed-dial or so. I am part of the last generation of people it feels like, where, you befriended someone with intent to build a bond with them and that bond is built upon year after year. You gain memories, then when the old memories are old, you make new ones.

I've noticed an alarming amount of people who'll just add you because they only see you as someone to lean on. Not because the relationship is meaningful, but someone who is just there 'when in need' as they go off not doing anything for large portions of time. This creates an artificial, shallow and hollow experience where a lot of time, you will feel like you're the one upholding the friendship.

And that only isn't normal to me, but simply unacceptable. Then you've got people who can't even go a day without communication so now they call it 'ghosting' which is another overly spammed word that has lost meaning. I'm low maintenance, who can go periods of time without talking but at the same time, I do also want things to be meaningful. Doesn't have to be constant, just something within the year.

And I've had people in my life who simply cannot do that. I've had people who still consider friends after not talking for years and years. What do you mean you're okay with that? That's lost time! I don't enjoy having to spend however long playing catch up.

^^^

I feel like on mainstream social media this is done pretty thoughtlessly and it's a norm but on Lemmy, with the much smaller userbase, I kinda felt like... it's like riding on someone else's coat tails? Or is it just me?

Edit: I specifically mean the Crosspost function.

Edit: of course if it's artwork or text, obviously then I'd make it explicitly clear it's not mine but I mean news articles, memes, things like that.

I’m basically living with this guy now. I keep saying “guy” because it feels too soon to call him my boyfriend or say we’re actually dating. It’s still kind of a getting-to-know-each-other thing, but we’re also fucking and pretty much living like a couple lol.

It looks like there are loads of weird and strange calendars that try to improve on the Gregorian calendar. Some stick with the twelve months while others divide the year into 13! A little searching shows some interesting ones that people came up with:

• the International Fixed Calendar, a 13-month calendar made in 1902, interestingly was adopted by Kodak for quite a while! Each month has 28 days, and there is an extra "year day" appended to bring the total to 365 days. Another day is added during leap years.
• the Pax Calendar, another 13-month calendar that was made in 1930, but instead of having leap days to keep it consistent with the Gregorian calendar, it has leap weeks. That's neat I guess.
• and the Symmetry454 calendar, which is a 12-month calendar made in 2002 (so much more recent than the above two) which alternates between months with four and five weeks. Additionally, it also has leap weeks, making December a five-week month every so often.

All of the above are "perennial", meaning the weekdays don't change every year. This could be both a good thing (makes things more predictable, you could reuse calendars from any previous year) but also as a negative (some birthdays would be on weekdays while others are on weekends). The 13-month options sound nice, but it would be very tough to get people interested in remembering a 13th month. I like the Symmetry454 calendar the most out of the three, since it's elegant while retaining the usual twelve months.

You also have the calendar made during the French Revolution in tandem with stuff like metric time and other base-10 standardisation, which had 10 months per year. It was removed after Napoleon took over, however, and wasn't adopted by any other nation.

I also find changing when the year begins from the birth of Jesus (which, apparently, isn't even that spot on, the guy was born four years before 1 AD I think) to some when else to be interesting too. The Holocene calendar adds another 10,000 years to represent the beginning of humans doing agriculture and such!

As for the question bit, I would like to ask what you all think of these alternate calendars. Would you switch to them if given the opportunity? If major world powers were to switch to the calendar, how would the public react? Is it possible to configure the clock to use an alternate calendar system on Linux?

Another thing I would like to ask if we were to change the calendar and possibly add a 13th month, what would you rename the months? It would help differentiate the old Gregorian dates in old texts, videos, etc. with new reformed ones, and it would also be a bit of fun! I also really don't like that the Caesars decided to shift the year by two, making September the 9th month, October the 10th, etc. Personally, I would name them after the major moons in the Solar System (the Moon, Ganymede, Europa, Titan, Miranda, etc.) given that the months were originally based on the lunar phases.

(Try to ~~be objective and~~ not just put your own first name at the top! You wouldn't want to tell your name to strangers on the internet, would you?)

Is BlueSky actually legit? I got rid of Twitter, Threads, Instagram, LinkedIn, Reddit, Discord, and as much of the Google Eco as I can right now.

I have both Lemmy (obviously) and Mastadon. BkueSky was always a question mark for me. It's not federated and it doesn't show ads and it doesn't ask for a subscription.

Color me a cynical fuck; but, I am wondering if BlueSky is legit enough with privacy and surveillance.

Anyone smarter than myself able to give me some guidance?