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[Rant] Why do people in the trans community never talk about voice surgery or acknowledge that it's necessary for some folks (discuss.online)

submitted 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) by Blazingtransfem98@discuss.online to c/mtf@lemmy.blahaj.zone

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(NSFW because I'm ranting due to voice dysphoria)

Like seriously, I was encouraged to just voice train for years to try and sound like a woman but even after 3 years of voice training nothing I tried helps and I still sound like a man who's imitating a woman's voice. My voice clearly doesn't and will never pass without surgical intervention but the worst part is that people have told me I don't need voice surgery and that my "fem" voice passes, bull fucking shit, I sent voice samples to a voice training sub on a throwaway account without telling them my gender just if it sounds masc or fem and most of them said my "fem" voice sounds masculine possibly slightly androgynous.

Also why would someone tell me my voice passes when it clearly doesn't? That's not being nice that's lying to me, and maybe you have the luxury of being openly and visibly trans but I don't, it can be a big problem if I speak up in the woman's room and the other person there is a TERF who hears me and thinks I'm a man in the ladies room.

I already know that I'm going to get voice training advice on this post and with all do respect, I don't want to hear it. If you read it online or heard it from a specialist I've probably tried it. The fact is voice training just doesn't work for everyone, some people's voices are just too damaged from hormone changes and mine is one of them 😔. I'll never sound like the girl I appear to be without an expensive surgery, and seemingly one that no one in this goddamn community ever wants to discuss or promote. I wouldn't even know about it existing if it wasn't for the fact that I googled it randomly out of curiosity to find out if it even exists.

Sorry for this rand, voice dysphoria is really bad today. I thought talking about it would make me feel better but it didn't really, just made me want voice surgery that much more 😭

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[–] Blazingtransfem98@discuss.online 1 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago)

At this point I'd take the risk, I can't stand my voice so much that even if there was a risk of it making me mute I'd take it even for even a slim chance to just sound like a normal cis girl.