Trans Memes

yeah, my first comment was poorly phrased and did assume the reader wasn't going to infer that I think cis-sexism is a good thing, but since it's ambiguous I've deleted my comments.

The relevance of enbies as a minorities: you could say I was making a generalization that for most trans people, transitioning will cause them to be more gender conforming. I think most people (both cis and trans) think of transitioning as subversive and as something that increases non-conformity, so the realization this isn't true for some of us was amusing and felt ironic. I probably felt it was safe to say because it's an irony that applies to the majority of trans people who medically transition, but there is a minority of trans individuals whose transition goals will put them into less conforming gender roles (where non-conforming is euphoric for them), and that was left out in my initial comments.

Pointing out they are a minority isn't meant to re-affirm cis-sexism or to deny their validity, it's meant to point out why I felt it was safe to make the comments I made about transitioning leading to gender conformity without feeling a need to add an asterisks that mentions the exceptions (which obviously exist, and are obviously valid).

I only mentioned cis people (not cis-hets) are 99% of people because I felt it was unfair when pooberbee said cis people can eat shit; that kind of mindset just seems wrong to me, and pointing out that cis people aren't some minority of evil people but are actually nearly all people might be helpful for them to see why telling nearly everyone to eat shit isn't a great sentiment.

To me it seems there’s a rather obvious implication that that somehow means conforming to the majority could be helpful in any way.

And in the context of “passing transpeople validating cishets expectations” this is a very bad take, because such validation would in turn invalidate all non-conforming identities, hence the throwing enbies under the bus interpretation.

I don't think the majority of trans people being binary and thus transitioning in a way that conforms with social norms necessarily invalidates non-conforming identities, but I can understand sensitivity that this is being implied ... I think this is where I feel there is consistent bad-faith, on my end there is no implication or intention to call into question non-conforming identities, and I feel nothing I've said is inconsistent with the validity of non-conforming identities ... to the contrary, my initial comment assumed the default position is that all trans people are by definition seen as non-conforming, and the surprise and irony I was trying to point to is that wow, some of us really end up being gender conforming (against the default belief that transness is inherently subversive and non-conforming).

That said, re-reading my original comment I can see why it reads differently - I think I was just being glib and assuming I was in a safe space where people would understand where I'm coming from. :-/