Trans Memes

I’d like to point out that there seems to have been some consensus on giving you the benefit of the doubt, you haven’t been down-voted after all.

I'm on blahaj, so I wouldn't see downvotes anyway (they're not federated)

Personally I had a bad feeling about that first comment, but wasn’t sure enough to comment.

I hear you, I guess it's fair to be wary when it seems like someone is implying enbyphobia, and when I re-read my comment I can see that possibility more clearly (which is part of why I felt it was good to delete my comment - it wasn't really contributing much anyway).

I think from my end it felt so out of left field and unnecessary, what makes it feel like bad faith is how aggressive it felt, and how disconnected it felt from my original comments.

I’d think the bigoted part of our society would likely use this to invalidate everyone who is non-binary.

I really dislike when the trans community attacks itself as if this is all a zero sum game; on the one hand it feels like "transmedicalists" want to claim that healthcare will be taken away from people who have dysphoria and need medical transition if we open the gate to enbies or other gender diverse people, and on the other side it feels sometimes like binary trans identity is increasingly viewed with suspicion and treated as a kind of betrayal of a subversive, beyond-the-binary trans identity (as if being non-binary is the ideal response to transphobia, and not just a natural category). On the one hand is respectability politics, and on the other hand is counter-cultural separatism. Both can be bad, and neither are necessary.

In the end I don't think passing trans people being more acceptable actually invalidates non-binary identity, that validation won't change the fact those bigots are going to reject non-binary identities that are non-conforming ... that is, the blame really belongs on the bigots and their bigotry, not on the trans people who receive less hate for being more conformist.

All this to be said, yeah, I dunno - feeling a bit alienated rn - maybe I should just take a break until I'm not sick with the flu and my brain isn't mush ... that would probably help me write things that don't make people so upset.