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I say this as someone who thinks adoption is a wonderful thing to do and is fine with the idea of raising children that are not biologically mine:
At least in my country, children that are up for adoption often have severe birth/cognitive defects and/or trauma (carrying a healthy child to term and giving it up for adoption is pretty much unheard of). While that’s a risk you face with biological children too, I don’t blame anyone for wanting to minimize that risk by not taking in a child that could require specialized care for the rest of its life with no guarantee of success (this applies to couples who choose to terminate a pregnancy upon discovering the risk of severe defects).
Adopted children are also more likely to struggle with integrating with their new family compared to a child that you raised from birth.
Finally, the process for adoption can be very lengthy and expensive, while fertility treatments are sometimes subsidized by governments or employers.
So, while I personally would never insist on having biological children, I don’t think it’s inherently immoral for others to want them or to not want the challenges that come with adoption.