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What hill are you willing to die on even if no one in your life agrees with you? (sh.itjust.works)
submitted 2 days ago by Zonefive@sh.itjust.works to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml
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Water usage is probably my biggest. Living in a high desert, my wife and MIL see no problem with filling one side of the sink with hot soapy water to wash a few dishes because “that’s just how I’ve always done it”, to watering the grass and plants for hours. All of this makes me mental.

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[–] andrewta@lemmy.world 1 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (1 children)

I mean this. I do truly wish you the best, but the reality is close to 50% of marriages end in divorce. With the exception of forced marriages, all of them started thinking it would last forever. Way too many divorces end with one side getting screwed. “Just be careful of who you marry” is a recipe for failure when taken it context of the above statistics. Many people are trapped in bad marriages and can’t really get a divorce without getting screwed. So that 50% number should really be higher. Every walk of life we plan for the worst and hope for the best, or at least if a person is paying attention they do. Marriage is a huge item. Plan for the worst (prenup) and hope you never need it. Either that or risk winding up as a statistic.

If you don’t get one (and are told to get one) then get screwed and look back realizing had you gotten a prenup things wouldn’t have been as bad…. Well I’ll have a hard time finding sympathy.

Also the half the assets sound fair. Until you realize that it’s possible to lose more then half without a prenup.

[–] TrippinMallard@lemmy.ml 3 points 1 day ago (1 children)

I thought the 50% stat didn't filter out repeat offenders.

[–] chunes@lemmy.world 3 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

You're correct. First time marriage is at 41% (in the USA, at least).