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General trans community.
Rules:
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Follow all blahaj.zone rules
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All posts must be trans-related. Other queer-related posts go to c/lgbtq.
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Don't post negative, depressing news articles about trans issues unless there is a call to action or a way to help.
Resources:
Best resource: https://github.com/cvyl/awesome-transgender Site with links to resources for just about anything.
Trevor Project: crisis mental health services for LGBTQ people, lots of helpful information and resources: https://www.thetrevorproject.org/
The Gender Dysphoria Bible: useful info on various aspects of gender dysphoria: https://genderdysphoria.fyi/en
StainedGlassWoman: Various useful essays on trans topics: https://stainedglasswoman.substack.com/
Trans resources: https://trans-resources.info/
[USA] Resources for trans people in the South: https://southernequality.org/resources/transinthesouth/#provider-map
[USA] Report discrimination: https://action.aclu.org/legal-intake/report-lgbtqhiv-discrimination
[USA] Keep track on trans legislation and news: https://www.erininthemorning.com/
[GERMANY] Bundesverband Trans: Find medical trans resources: https://www.bundesverband-trans.de/publikationen/leitfaden-fuer-behandlungssuchende/
[GERMANY] Trans DB: Insurance information (may be outdated): https://transdb.de/
[GERMANY] Deutsche Gesellschaft für Transidentität und Intersexualität: They have contact information for their advice centers and some general information for trans and intersex people. They also do activism: dgti.org
*this is a work in progress, and these resources are courtesy of users like you! if you have a resource that helped you out in your trans journey, comment below in the pinned post and I'll add here to pass it on
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Problem is that make up washes off. I have learned how to alter how my face appears etc. but in the end of the day, I know what I'll see in the mirror - which would also be what another person would see and have to accept. I'm terrified of the idea of making myself look nice with various tricks and then be a disappointment.
I don't know what to tell you - ultimately makeup can't solve deeper dysphoric issues, but that's why you orient your life to make what changes you can, e.g. with HRT and surgeries.
Makeup can (however temporarily) make some of those issues easier to deal with, and those pragmatic and personal benefits are not nothing simply because they're temporary.
Your comment comes across as defeatist and like self-sabotage, as a kind of rationalizing why you shouldn't make an effort to feel better or improve your situation.
For context, makeup skills also accumulate to the point that they can significantly help your confidence and happiness in most social situations. That you might be disappointed by what you see in the mirror after you've taken the makeup off before you go to bed is something every woman faces, whether trans or not - and while it's generally worse for trans women, we are still stuck with the choice to try to make the improvements we can make or not.
I think it's obvious that it's better to choose to try to make the improvements you can make than to choose to "lie down and rot", which helps nothing and is entirely unnecessary. Life can be so much better, I encourage you to suspend judgement and seek a better life whether the outcome is guaranteed or not. It's worth trying.
For me, transition is about affirming life and seeing the possibility in life - if I wanted to lie down and rot I wouldn't bother with transition at all, and I would continue living my life as I did pre-transition (basically looking for any excuse to die). While I still strongly feel people should have the right to make that choice, I recognize that I only felt that way because I was repressing and refusing to take care of myself. Now I recognize that transition is a part of being a good and responsible person, as it helps me stay motivated to take care of myself so I don't end up in the ER and burdening the people I care about.
So, maybe you haven't hit rock bottom enough yet to convince you that "lie down and rot" thinking is harmful to not just you but everyone else, but I hope you are able to find a way to feel motivated to take care of yourself and seek happiness - life can be so much better. :-)