Thanks for sharing all that though.
For me, it feels like... why even bother. I'm not pretty so trying to make myself pretty feels kinda pathetic. Ideally I'd accept that about myself but it's hard when I feel that's a big part of my solitude. It actively interferes with social needs. Not helped by somewhat introverted personality and autistic tendencies.
Fashion-wise, I do not ever leave the house without putting full effort into my outfit, accessories, and hair. I tend to look over dressed for a lot of things like store runs or briefly heading out to treat myself to coffee or lunch.
You go by yourself? What do you feel doing that? Another thing i want to do but can't seem to bring myself, unless I'm traveling because then I have the tourist excuse.
Well, it's progress at least.
Also, I don't want to consider hearsay or rumors a trustworthy source of info to make my opinion on anything, or anyone.
You volunteered a pretty absolute statement and I responded accordingly. OP asked "we", you reject the "we" and answer anyway, with a side order of sneering.
You never read reviews on movies, products?
While that's a fair moral goal, it’s practically impossible. We are an information-sharing species. If you refuse to factor in reputation (which is just aggregated hearsay), you're essentially choosing to ignore the early warning system that human society has used for thousands of years to stay safe. The trick isn't to ignore gossip - it's to learn how to vet the quality of it.
How do you form an independent opinion of a SOCIAL media site 🤔 If you try it, you're necessarily relying on the opinions of the users of the site (they must like it, else they wouldn't use it). Or you can be actually intellectually honest and ask your existent social (media) group (that you probably have some alignment with, else you wouldn't be in it).
There's a difference between asking for consensus opinion and actually forming your own. And gossip has always been an important part of making decisions on who and what to associate with.
Thinking for yourself is great. Just make sure you actually know how to do it instead of just parroting the sentiment to sound cool.
"OCD made me buy the set."
"Intrusive thoughts won."
"Didn't have enough spoons to resist an impulse."
"Something something ADHD something something ooh shiny thrinket"
"Me spending another 10dollars on useless junk for a drop of serotonin"
Mother!
Are you saying you’ll only get on board when everyone else does?
Well, no. I said critical mass. But for the sake of argument: yes.
You should adopt political ideas based on whether you agree with its principles, not based on how many people agree with it.
Who are you to tell me what ideology I should adopt and how to go about it? Who made you the boss of me?
https://repair.eu/ is basically the group fighting that. They’re a huge coalition pushing the EU to force companies to stop soldering everything and actually give us parts and manuals.
It’s less "ranting on YouTube" and more "lobbying for laws" so your next laptop doesn't end up in a landfill just because of a $2 fuse.
Lemme know when you convince a critical mass of people to adopt communism and I'll get right on board with that.
Problem is that make up washes off. I have learned how to alter how my face appears etc. but in the end of the day, I know what I'll see in the mirror - which would also be what another person would see and have to accept. I'm terrified of the idea of making myself look nice with various tricks and then be a disappointment.