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My Filipino\Japanese wife loathes everything Japanese. I'm OK with that. (lemmy.world)

submitted 1 week ago* (last edited 6 days ago) by shalafi@lemmy.world to c/unpopularopinion@lemmy.world

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She's Filipino by birth and culture, dad was Japanese. She won't say a single word against the Japanese unless you really drill into her opinions, simply won't talk about it. But JFC does she hate them, deep down. It's funny that her sisters live in Japan ATM. :) They don't seem to care.

But I get it, deep down. Japan raped her country in WWII, literally and figuratively, and while she's ignorant of modern Western politics, she know plenty about the Japanese using babies for bayonet practice. Have to admit, I wondered if her dad raped her mom.

My father died of mesothelioma sucking down asbestos while fighting in the Pacific Theatre. Watched him suffer to death for two years as a child. You might think I would hold a grudge. I do not, history to me.

All that to say, I don't blame her and I'm fine with her prejudice. OTOH, she refuses to do cute shit like wear a kimono or chops sticks in her hair. Fuck me, I signed up for an Asian chick! (That is an attempt at humor for the autistic among you.)

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[–] Ledericas@lemm.ee 3 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago) (1 children)

she dint even live through ww2, why is she hating from before she was born? i get boomers would be upset, but her?

i would be concerned about her prejeduce? why not question her about it, where is she getting info from.

shes also japanese, what does she say about her ancestry, does she hate her dad?

[–] shalafi@lemmy.world 1 points 6 days ago

All questions I have. She's very closed mouth and I don't wish to pry on what is obviously a touchy subject.

In any case, it has zero effect in the real world. She would never breathe a word of hate or act racist towards a Japanese person. (And they don't really exist around here.)

[–] Zwuzelmaus@feddit.org 3 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago) (1 children)

You're doing the right thing: stick to your wife and do not try to change her.

That's the first, and the most important.

unless you really drill into her opinions, simply won't talk about it.

I guess that's typical for several Asian cultures, not to be very open about opinions.

she refuses to do cute shit like wear a kimono or chops sticks in her hair. Fuck me, I signed up for an Asian chick! (That is an attempt at humor for the autistic among you.)

Good to keep your humor!

Maybe she doesn't even find that "cute". Have you learned already about the traditional clothing style of her own region?

[–] shalafi@lemmy.world 0 points 6 days ago

She doesn't find anything culturally Japanese cute. Took me a bit to clue in! She has a nice kimono back home, can't get her to have her kids send it over. 🤷🏻

No idea about traditional Filipino clothing. That's a damned fine idea! As of now, women over there are stuck in the 80s, which is cute in itself. I thought it was just her that wore designer clothes with giant branding. Nope. She had me watch some videos to see what people were like over there. ALL the girls sporting giant GUESS logos.

[–] mienshao@lemm.ee -1 points 1 week ago (2 children)

Fucking stupid. I’m an American and have no problems with Germany/Germans or Japan/Japanese folks. I don’t give a shit that they did to Americans decades ago—war is hell. Like what a stupid fucking reason to hate a country. Were you around in WWII? No, so shut the fuck up.

Also, SHE’S Japanese, so she’s self-hating, which is beyond stupid. You don’t have to own every single little thing your country did decades ago. Also also, go look up Filipino history. You think Filipinos haven’t also done some fucked up shit during wartime? Gtfo.

Lastly, your last comment is weird as fuck. You married a woman so she could be your waifu? The hell is wrong with you?

Yalls are some pieces of work—stay married, yalls deserve each other.

[–] shalafi@lemmy.world 0 points 6 days ago

(That is an attempt at humor for the autistic among you.)

There go one right there!