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[–] admin@lemmy.today 1 points 3 hours ago

Incentives don't always have to be of commercial value; they can also be moral and assumed.

You don't usually receive commercial value for rescuing an animal, helping a child, or sheltering a woman. What I am saying is, why can't we offer the same moral incentive to men? They are often portrayed as oppressors, and more value can be extracted from the "oppressor bogeyman" than from actually addressing and solving the problems.

What you are describing is not solving the problem; it is, at best, putting the problem under the rug, or at worst, getting rid of the problem altogether.

[–] admin@lemmy.today 1 points 3 hours ago

Listen to me: try putting maximum effort into improving yourself.

"I will just finally blow my head off next pay. Then maybe they will finally ask if they did something wrong."

What makes you think that people who have not acknowledged your efforts until now will suddenly gain enough self-awareness to realize that they are the problem after you take your own life?

Join an offline community, engage in fieldwork, sports, or anything where you don’t have to be the best—just be there. Just know that I am rooting for you.

[–] admin@lemmy.today 18 points 16 hours ago* (last edited 14 hours ago) (1 children)

Mate, what many of those so-called gururs of "manosphere" do is called capitalising on misery of others, not solving. Which I have already covered in my comment above.

[–] admin@lemmy.today 7 points 16 hours ago* (last edited 16 hours ago) (1 children)

There is no struggle but class struggle. They're just pissed they missed the bus on being invited to the ownership class and now they're stuck down here with everyone else.

The same can be said about you too, you know you are not getting shit done against the ownership class so resorting to insulting and demeaning anyone who appears privileged to you.

You want to really fight a class war? How about starting by not out of frustration humiliating anyone who has different symptoms of the same problem as you.

This fucking thread is crazy... especially these dudes trying to wrap their misogyny in faux leftist babbling.

Sure men talking about their problems is misogyny, you can't gate keep the left, and anybody who is reading this, some people at left accept you and adversiory despite of your gender . your are not abonded. Seek out help. There are still people who will help you.

[–] admin@lemmy.today 8 points 16 hours ago* (last edited 16 hours ago)

I understand your thoughts experiment, and I assure you that I am not assuming that this thought comes from a place of malice. The second thing is that I would be using an LLM model to fix my grammar, so it might sound like an LLM response, and my word choice might not be as precise as native ones.

I want you to understand that my comment wasn't in contrast to women but to society. Helping women isn't coming from goodwill or a soft spot but as a means to an end. What end? Exercising soft power for powerful people¹, brownie points for PR², and more consumers for capitalism.³

  1. Saving women and children is still shown as a positive attribute, not as some general attribute. The thing is, people doing this are well aware of that. Recently, when Trump blocked the USAIDs and some other beneficiaries that helped victim groups, a lot of people who championed feminism and the welfare of the weak straight up on camera started babbling about how the USA will lose its soft power in other countries. You can call me naive, but it baffled me. You don't have to pretend that there is no soft power, but at least keep people's welfare as the central piece of your argument or concerns.

  2. Brownie points: Saving women or appearing to work for helping women is used for PR by political figures, corporations, and people who want to be at the center of attention. Though recently, this one isn't going very well because, due to the internet and the large availability of information, it is very easy to check for credibility. However, there is still enough bias that can be exploited.

  3. How can I explain this one? Think about it: you don't want half of your customers locked away and banished when you can sell them consumerism as rebellion (the search for cigarettes as feminism).

If you paid attention, all these three situations are beneficial only as long as women are presented as victims or oppressed. Since there is no David without Goliath, we get men as the oppressor or ultimate evil.

Capitalism can appease men to promote consumerism wrapped in misogyny. Corporations can capitalize on women's loneliness and low self-worth.

Patriarchy can use women to portray the ultimate evil.

No, these both can't be promoted to the same extreme, as it will lead to people resorting to gender roles while expecting others not to, creating extremely competitive conditions for men, as the patriarchy will push the gender role of men asking out, taking financial responsibility, etc. If we assume misogyny is high too, they will soon check out of the dating scene, leading to a fall in the birth rate, which isn't too great for capitalism. We have a whole country as an example of why capitalism's incentives don't lie with promoting misogyny; can you guess that country? :::Yes, it is South Korea.:::

For capitalism to thrive, it needs just enough modulated patriarchy and misogyny where men remain competitive with each other, and even those who give up remain consumers in the form of some consumerism addiction. If misogyny and patriarchy are promoted enough and spiral out of control, people will check out of society.

I have noticed that women with low self-worth find meaning in work, which ultimately profits corporations. The money they earn will be spent on consumerism/addictions, which again can be profited by capitalism and corporations.

I can't comment on this, as it was anecdotal from my side, and this can be anecdotal from your side.

The rich can have as many resources as they want, so why solve it? Other than individuals (women) taking matters into their own hands and rescuing each other, I don't think there is enough incentive to help women as a community or as a whole.

You are completely wrong on this one. The divide is very important. If they (the rich and powerful) let go of this illusion of helping women or the underprivileged or making it all appear as meritocracy, it will turn into rich vs. poor, and this has never worked in favor of the rich. To maintain this illusion or facade that they are not the perpetrators of the current worsening of society, they need bogeymen, which, of course, we know who they are, and make them appear as saviors they need victim too, and we are back to square one.

You know what is ironic? This portrayal of bogeymen and its consequences isn't backfiring on the rich and powerful but is becoming a tool to exchange power between different factions of the same wealthy individuals.

[–] admin@lemmy.today 45 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (28 children)

Is there even an incentive for solving men's problems? Feminism can use men to portray the ultimate evil; influencers can use that portrayal to criticize men, engage in rage bait, get attention and secure brand deals.

Capitalism can appease women to promote consumerism wrapped in feminism. Corporations can capitalize on men's loneliness and low self-worth.

I have noticed that men with low self-worth find meaning in work, which ultimately profits corporations, the money they will earn will be expanded on consumerisms/additions which again can be profited by capitalism and corporate.

The rich can have as many resources as they want, so why solve it? Other than individuals (men) taking matters in their own hands and rescuing each other I don't think there is enough incentive to help men as community or whole

 

It always throws the "Trakt authentication expired" and requires re-authenticate.

[–] admin@lemmy.today 2 points 2 weeks ago

But USA got all the stars and attention.

[–] admin@lemmy.today 7 points 3 weeks ago* (last edited 3 weeks ago)

Outside Invasion and colonisation.

[–] admin@lemmy.today 5 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

I don't think so, more like you are built of nutrients you get from food you eat so technically you are the food you ate.

[–] admin@lemmy.today 3 points 3 weeks ago

Will probably give it a try, so not clicking on any spoilers.

 

you guys got anything?

[–] admin@lemmy.today 3 points 3 weeks ago (2 children)

What is that book about?

[–] admin@lemmy.today 34 points 4 weeks ago

I am so happy that the z-library survived.

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I like sharing my thoughts and struggles here, but I don't want it to be a permanent digital footprint and wish to delete all the posts and comments one day.

 

I like sharing my thoughts and struggles here, but I don't want it to be a permanent digital footprint and wish to delete all the posts and comments one day.

 

How do you even deal with this, it's like competing for everything, job, dating basic necessities etc. You slip for a moment and you will be replaced.

 

There is a lot of shit going and effort doesn't feel enough, it feels like I need to do more and more to change the situation and what I am doing is just too little also I feel I am already at my limit.

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cross-posted from: https://lemmy.today/post/24809302

also i can't self-host.

 

also i can't self-host.

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