blackwitch

i wrote this in a rush…

so i’m polyamorous. i’m 15 years old and a girl. i go by “jessica” on here, which obviously isn’t my real name but its what you can call me on this account. at a therapy group center, i met this other polyamorous dude “avery” (m16). at first, i was 13 and didn’t know he was polyamorous, so when we connected really fast and he mentioned his girlfriend all of a sudden, i was sad but gave up and just wanted to be his friend.

our therapist, “miss alex” (all fake names so they are in quotes) left as she was having a baby, then got another job or decided to be a stay-at-home mom, i forgot which. avery left the group a while before.

one time, i was in the waiting room and i saw him with a group of other teens, but i decided not to say anything. im faceblind and did not know whether that was him or not.

well, some time after, i was sitting pretty close but not right next to him, and i could clearly see that was the avery i knew. he recognized me and we finally exchanged social media usernames.

we became close. here’s the thing: i found out he was polyamorous but he had a boyfriend, “david” (m16). he asked me if i wanted to, and i said yeah, and he said he would check in with david and finally tell him he was polyamorous. david supported him but wanted to be monogamous.

well, a month or two ago, they broke up. about 3 weeks ago, avery confessed to me finally when i joined his group again, and i realized i was so sad about him and david being together but happy for them because i was jealous and wanted to be the one for him.

now we are together. sometimes, he’s busy with other things or just reads the messages and doesn’t respond. sometimes, i get scared i text too much since i’ve been insulted and had mean things said to me from that, but the rational part of my brain says i’ve known him for like 3 years and for over a year fully, and he would not do that. he’s always been respectful and loving even as a friend.

but i have an anxious attachment i’m trying to work on. my attachments are different depending on the partner and i for some reason always am more “secure” around girls and more “anxious” around boys, though i used to be avoidant.

We who get periods all experience them in different ways. For me, I get a bit more irritated and I eat a lot more and also become either a lot more happy or a lot more depressed during PMS.

My sister (13), she gets more irritated and rude, sarcastic, grumpy, and mean. She blames everything she does on her period and insults others and treats them rudely, and then sulks when she gets told not to be that way.

How can I help my sister on her period while also helping others and helping her be less rude?

So this will be my first time getting drunk drunk, and my friend is a year older than me and has done it several times before. I could have him watch me, but there may be a chance that he'd be high/drunk too, so what are some things to watch out for and consider during my first time getting drunk if I'm able to go to his house?

What should I do? On my male days, I get misgendered intentionally and called "my girl/daughter" by my transphobic dad who says "people think boys can be girls and I hate it!!"

He also keeps calling my male friend a "she" when he doesn't even look like a girl, he looks pretty gender-neutral/masc and just may look feminine to him because he's pre-T (he's only 16).

I thought of one thing, and last time he said I couldn't hang out with him because he was trans but didn't have a face to match up with the name or me just saying "a friend" so he may let me hang out with him, thinking he's "a girl" and just a tomboy so I can finally sleep over.

So "Elizabeth" from before, I guess I will call by their more "neutral" name "Alex" since they use any pronouns but prefer neutral with a slight preference on she.

So, Alex can be a bit freaky but I honestly don't mind because they're really cute and not like this all the time, in fact, they're mainly really friendly most of the time! They were thinking about dating me according to one of their friends but I was thinking about video calling first because we're online friends, we may not be able to meet IRL, and because I wanna see if they're legit obviously first.

After I call them, though, I'm really nervous. How should I go about asking them out?

In the language I’m learning: Łał - polish

This is a genuine question. I've always had an interest in learning languages and I have a list I want to learn. I am already somewhat decent in Spanish, so I'm picking up that, practicing my Portuguese, going to learn French and Italian, maybe German, learning Polish, and possibly Russian.

I already canceled the idea of living in Russia due to obvious reasons, but will I have any need to learn the language? Will it be useful? Will that be offensive? Many people HATE Russia and the language.

Hi, so I'm very young and this may change, but I wanna get started at learning a language anyway. I either wanna go to Germany, Austria, Poland, or Italy. According to the Wikipedia, I believe Italy speaks the least amount of English out of the 4.

However, which country would have what I'm looking for: rich culture (probably all), good writing inspiration, friendly people, cheap places but still good to live, good pay for jobs like teachers, and in need of English education. Also, not a lot of far-right, homophobic/Nazi groups (I'm a lesbian).

Hi, so I have some choices:

I can either go to somewhere in Sicily, maybe Trapani, and learn Italian

I can go to somewhere in Poland, maybe Zakopane with the mountains, and learn Polish despite it being a hard language. The course is shorter on Busuu.

Or I could learn both German and Poland and live somewhere in Poland by the German border. Or I could live in Germany, Austria, Switzerland, Belgium, Luxembourg, or Liechtenstein.

(I'm trying for Austria)

I have a lot of choices.

I keep hearing stuff like that Poland has bad air and that only half the locals are nice and such and that Italians are so much friendlier, the country's sunnier, and "don't ever go to Poland, you wouldn't like it there".

Some people say just vacation to both countries, girlfriend says live in Italy but vacation in Poland, and my dad and uncle say to vacation in Italy but live in Poland.

I'm still young so I won't worry about it now, but which seems to be more welcoming, more opportunities, and clean to live and all? Both seem about the same to me and both seem very culturally rich and pretty.

Apologies if this is offensive.

According to the staff, I can no longer kiss my girlfriend. Not on the lips, not on the cheek, nor can my two sapphic friends who are dating.

However, there are so many straight kids who get away with the kissing and PDA.

So, my good friend (18m) had a falling out with his ex (19m) because the ex bullied him and also because he is apparently dating a 16f, so my friend thinks he is a pedophile for obvious reasons (adult + minor).

I can see why this would be considered bad but also, when I turn 16, my girlfriend will be 19 too, as I am currently a young sophomore who is about 3 years younger than her girlfriend, a senior.