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Women only trans inclusive This is an inclusive community for all things women. Whether you're here for make up tips, feminism or just friendly chit chat, we've got you covered.

Rules…

  1. Women only… trans women are women, and transphobic or gender critical talk isn’t allowed. Anyone under the trans umbrella (e.g. non-binary, bigender, agender) is free to decide whether a women's community is a good fit for them.
  2. Don’t be a dick. No personal attacks, no aggression, play nice.
  3. Don’t hate on groups, hatefilled talk about groups is not allowed. Ever.
  4. No governmental politics, so no talk of Trump actions etc. We recommend Feminism@beehaw.org for that, but here is an escape from it.
  5. New accounts or users with few comments may have their posts removed to prevent spam and bad-faith participation.

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Wanna chit chat but not do a full post? Do it here!

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Missing your dad? Horrendous at DIY, car mechanics etc? Want a dad hug? Check out our twin community !dadforaminute@lemmy.world. It's a bunch of dads giving advice and support to anyone that needs it.

They're really patient, really nice and they really want to help. They're WomensStuff's official male cheerleaders and genuine supporters.

Give it a go!

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ONLY WOMEN AND TRANS+ WOMEN INC NON BINARY ARE ALLOWED TO POST. WE ARE A WOMEN ONLY COMMUNITY

See full rules below

Welcome to WomensStuff! We are here for all things women. Examples include...

  1. Fashion, style, make up
  2. Feminism, patriarchy
  3. Friendly chit chat with other women.

Rules...

  1. Women only... trans women are women, and transphobic or gender critical talk isn't allowed. Anyone under the trans umbrella (eg non binary) is welcome
  2. Don't be a dick. No personal attacks, no aggression, play nice.
  3. Don't hate on groups, hatefilled talk about groups is not allowed. Ever.
  4. No governmental politics, so no talk of Trump actions etc. We recommend Feminism@beehaw.org for that, but here is an escape from it.

Please see our twinned community !dadforaminute@lemmy.world They're WomensStuff's official male cheerleaders, and great for when you need dad advice or hugs... They're also a great way for male posters to support women.

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Our home is our castle, and it's where we spend most our time. You may have just a room, bedsit, or mansion... what styles have you done it in?

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WOMEN ONLY COMMUNITY MEN PLEASE DO NOT COMMENT*

It's something I've seen thrown at women a fair bit. Feminazi, stripping men's rights, feminism has gone too far blah blah. Has anyone ever accused you of it? And any women said this to you?

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Binge watching a great tv show? Had a blast taking the kids somewhere? Got a slam dunk at work? Whatever it is, we wanna know! Tell us below

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What accessories do you like to rock?
For me it'd be my watch and retractable landyard with my charms💖

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Emotional harm can be hard to name and easy to dismiss. We know when we've been physically hit, but emotional is really different. All sorts of things can cause emotional harm... what can we do to protect ourselves from it?

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WOMEN ONLY COMMUNITY MEN PLEASE DO NOT COMMENT

I totally get the joke, and Pedro can only be a good thing (huge fan, pray daily that he adopts me). But I do understand why some men would find it insulting. What's your thoughts?

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It's literally the most natural thing in the world to equate reproductive effectiveness to worth. All life is "worth" their reproductive effectiveness. So not having sex is very relevant to our entire existence as a species.

As such, our mental faculties put a heavy punishment in the form of mental pain, i.e. "self-worth attached to getting laid", on this whole thing.

This has very little to do with societal expectations. It's simple biology. Not getting laid is supposed to be one of the worst things for an organism.

You're rationally right with what you say, but it's simply not very relevant. Rationality does not help with our most deeply rooted biological desires. The only thing that helps is getting them fulfilled, i.e. having sex."

From the Blackpill incel thread

I can't tell I'm just too ace to comprehend this. Is this a thing? Do women feel this? I argued it's more of a "societal expectation" thing and was countered with.. this.

Not saying this user is wrong, I just am having a difficult time understanding this.

"Our most deeply rooted biological desires" has me squinting real hard. Do women feel this way, too? Idk I'm absolutely confused af

EDIT: Please do NOT brigade the blackpill thread. No touch. Seriously.

Realization achieved: it's not an incel discussion thread: it's now an incel defense thread. What a fuckin' waste ffs..

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Womens friendships breaking up can be painful, a relief, or just plain messy. What was the thing that ruined one of yours?

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The stock image/thumbnail shows an icing piping bag, but I just dumped the rest of my body lotion into a ziplock bag, cut a tiny hole in the corner and squeezed it into the other half-filled lotion bottle.

I couldn't find a funnel, which in hindsight would have taken muck longer to decant and I wanted to share.

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We often have a terrible relationship with our weight. We're too fat, too thin, our weights on the wrong part of our body etc. How much does your weight bother you?

Please don't post your weight, numbers can be triggering for people with a history of disordered eating

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Women have a tendency to focus on our negatives. What are 3 positive words you'd use to describe yourself?

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I think we can safely assume that any woman, anywhere, who has public photos available and who says something that upsets a man (right or left) will have deepfake porn made of her.

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Anyone got any cool shoelace hacks or styles they want to share or try?

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My work is up and down like a yoyo at the moment, to help avoid doom scrolling during quiet patches I've decided to start reading (nobody at work is going to pay attention to plain text on my screen, we're all in the same boat).

I've got a copy of Naomi Altman's The Power to start off with ... any other recommendations?

(Obviously can't be anything smutty or very funny because I need to be low-key, and lighter stuff would be easier to pick up and put down when I have actual work to do)

Thanks in advance :-)

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It's funtime Friday! We're playing never have I ever. It's simple, people comment saying something they've never done. Others reply saying if they have, and posing their own never have I ever.

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Be patient for about 40 seconds. I think the payoff is worth it.

The official title is given above, but I like to call it instead "Song To Fuck With Foreign Perception".

《凌宵话》 is a musical toast to friendship, urban life, and the delightful weirdness that comes from bringing different backgrounds together. It’s playful, heartfelt, and a little bit cheeky—just like the singers themselves. (Both singers are known to be boundary-pushers and just a little bit "off" in their approach to things.)

To explain the video, it's two friends: one native-born Shanghai, one outsider to Shanghai, playfully teasing each other over their different upbringings, habits, etc. This divide is emphasized by one (Huang) singing in the Wu dialect of Shanghai while the other (Lou) singing in Mandarin. They're playfully making fun of how each does things differently, but the chorus hits the core of the song:

“No matter where you’re from, you’re my sister, and we’ll always have each other in this big city.”

So go watch the video before you open the spoiler. Think about what the video is trying to communicate. Then read the explanation.

explanation


The reason I think this fucks with foreign perceptions is that most people I show this to look at it and ask if this is in some way queer-coded.

It isn't.

Asian, especially in this case Chinese, body language is very different from western cultures. To wit:

  1. In Chinese (and more broadly, East Asian) culture, close friends—especially women—often hold hands, lean on each other, or share physical space in ways that are purely platonic but might be read as romantic or flirtatious by Western viewers.
  2. The kind of teasing, inside jokes, and emotional openness in the lyrics and performance are signs of deep friendship in China. In the West, such emotional intimacy between women is sometimes only associated with romantic relationships, so it gets “sapphic-coded” by default.

The source of the confusion is that western pop culture is primed to look for subtext and “shipping” in any close same-sex relationship on screen, especially if there’s chemistry or strong body language. Asian pop culture, on the other hand, has a millennia-long tradition of “sisterhood” and “brotherhood” that’s overtly affectionate without any romantic implication.

Hence "Song To Fuck With Foreign Perception".


So why did I put it in WomensStuff? Because I really did not need to hear the male view of the singers and how they look. 😂

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I’ve never done makeup before, even my own, but I’d like to start learning. The sheer amount of options is a bit overwhelming though. What are your favorite tutorials (YouTube videos or channels, etc) for makeup, especially the basics?

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There's certain things that are seen as classically female. Shopping, kids, crafting, gossip etc are all seen as women's stuff, but we dont all like them. What classically female things do you like?

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