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I second you on the point about a "perfect partner". However I still think a relationship can be "perfect", because a relationship is much more than just the two people involved.
As long as we accept that no realistic relationship is completely without conflict, I would say that a "perfect relationship" involves being able to work through the issues that inevitably show up. It's something you build together, not something you just have.
My impression is that the current "dating economy" breaks this perception a bit, to the point where a lot of people end up looking for the "perfect partner" that they automatically form the "perfect relationship" with, and aren't willing to do much hard work to build that relationship. I don't think that kind of "perfect relationship" (without any work) exists.
Isn't it what I just wrote? Real question (my English is lacking so...)
I didn't mean to come off as disagreeing with you, I think we generally agree. My point was that I think there can be such a thing as a "perfect relationship", as long as we have a realistic idea of what that entails. I definitely agree that the idea of a "perfect relationship" that a lot of media tries to sell us is completely unrealistic though.
Your english is great btw :)
You did not, sorry if I made you think so ;)
The second part of your sentence make it so we can fully agree.
It's so toxic. It was already a thing when I was a teen but it was nothing compared to what it has morphed into since the last 20-15 years or so. Today, I see so many young people not just completely lost, they're afraid to even try to live something, anything. More and more of them are also completely destroyed, crushed by that relentless bombardment of 'perfection' everywhere. Our society is killing humanity in its young, what kind of society is OK with doing that?
I'm not that old myself (in my 50s) but I'm old enough to not worry much about the impact of that trend on my own existence but I feel so sorry, and angry, for those younger generations as they have absolutely no idea what have been stolen from them. They have no idea what they're giving away in exchange of nothing but a mirage on a shiny screen.
A bit like with porn becoming the new normal way young people experiment with sex. I mean, I'm fine with people fapping at whatever they fancy but what's going on is more than just fapping. It's an over consumption of... human meat. And that over-consumption is depriving them of something much more precious. Making love was never about fucking someone or fantasizing about such or such anatomical detail or some fetish or another. Here again, I'm sad for them because they're the ones losing out. Badly... I was tempted to say "they're the one being screwed" but I thought maybe that would not be OK :p
Thx :)