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My mother telling me I should not think that she makes any money with me. (Backstory: Was living with her, dad paid ~~alimony~~ child support). I was baffled, because even when I lowkey suspected that, it was not even a relevant thing for our conversation at this time.
A few years later, when I wanted to move out for studying it was suddendly a problem, because she could not make the full payments for her house without the ~~alimony~~ child supprt from my dad. So I stayed.
Some more years down the line I finally wanted to move out, as I had a full time job in sight and wanted to live with my boyfriend. I was in my mid-twenties. Basically the conversation was the same as before, she could not pay for her house without me. She could not answer my question how she thought this would work out. Was she expecting me to live with her until she paid for the house? Because this would be up until my forties, maybe longer. The house is not big enough for two families, so it was never an option for me and my bf to move in. Of course I moved out.
What happened with your mom after you moved out?
She somehow managed to keep the house, but struggles to this day with payments. Does not want to move in a flat, because the house has more room for possibilities and a garden. Also says I should get the house someday but it is unclear when or how this should take place. She tried to make a deal with me and my boyfriend (now husband) a while ago, but the terms on her side werde very loosley written out and had too much room for malicious intent in the long run. Also the payments are very high, because she made a bad deal in regards of the interest rates, so me and my husband also would struggle financially and we do not want a house this bad.
Sounds like she wanted you to get a house, so she can move in for free. She's probably claiming you as a dependant, or using you to get more money from alimony or the state if you were living with her
Actually the plan for giving me the house included that she would move out. But she wanted to be imprecise in how I/We would pay her back for the amount she already payed for the house. Switched back and forth inbetween money and/or getting to live with us sooner or later (so basically what you say). She also did not say how much money we would then owe her and wanted to let that open specifically, which could basically result in us paying the left amount (which we should have done in her name, she wanted us to pay HER the amount every month so that then she would pay the bank) plus "rent" to her endlessly.
kinda wierd shes not telling you the details of the payments on the house, no wonder she is struggling payments, she might assumed certain things? usually when they try to free-load they tell you how much it is owed, or how much money they need.