Lol. But on a serious not i know people that got therapy for that and they are completely normal people. Everyone has quirks and pedophilia is also one of them but the problem is when it takes over your rational judgement and you do something you shouldnt. This is why hate the median portayal of pedophiles, while i agree that if you commit such an act that makes you a horrible person but most people with these desires do not commit acts. It should be viewed as any other medical condition, it can be treated. There are also other philias which are lets say less harmfull to other people but are self destructive and you can go to therapy for them as well. The hardest part is starting therapy and realizing youre not alone and you shouldnt be judged for something that is out of your control. This is why im saying people who do commit ARE and should be treated as criminals as they choose to comit the act even if they didnt chose the desire. Hope im not gonna get downvoted to fucking oblivion.

[–] Oka@sopuli.xyz 15 points 1 week ago (12 children)

Or you're like me and think you're a pedophile because you don't like men or women sexually. I'm just asexual. Thanks therapy!

[–] Contemporarium@lemm.ee 4 points 1 week ago (5 children)

Can you walk me through how you came to that conclusion? I’m gay myself and have always known do I’m not sure how t something like this happens. What made you think you were into kids in the first place?

[–] Oka@sopuli.xyz 3 points 1 week ago (2 children)

Didn't know that there were other options besides straight, gay, and bi. When I didn't fall cleanly in one of those, I considered what other options were there. I was always unsure, but i went in a wrong direction full of guilt and depression, thinking if im not those, the only other option is...the worst. We don't know what we don't know.

I never met an asexual, or a demisexual, or any other sexuality, up to this point. I may have heard the term asexual, but it was never described to me in a way that I could relate. It wasn't until after RE-WATCHING Bojack Horseman that I actually did thorough research on the topic, and all the stars aligned. The first time watching, it just didn't click, I knew there was an asexual character, but I didn't connect that i could be asexual.

I went 25 years not knowing I could be asexual. I'm 30 now. I only wish there was more representation as I grew up, but once I found out, I became the change I wanted to see, and started expressing it in my clothing, sharing with others, and helping clear up confusion.

[–] GaMEChld@lemmy.world 2 points 6 days ago (1 children)

Life's a hell of a trip man. I was 34 before getting diagnosed with ADHD, which made my entire life suddenly made sense. Oh, turns out I have narcolepsy too, and I've been punished for my sleep patterns and issues my entire childhood. Who knew narcolepsy isn't necessarily how it's portrayed in movies?

[–] Oka@sopuli.xyz 2 points 6 days ago (1 children)

Either I have ADHD, or humans weren't meant to do the same job with the same tasks for years at a time

[–] GaMEChld@lemmy.world 2 points 3 days ago

Could be both! But yeah, I think humans are curious by nature and need to exercise their problem solving muscles, regardless of what topic of interest. An engineer will be solving problems using math and physics, but a musician or a poet will have their own problems to be solved in their respective areas using the tools of their crafts.

[–] Contemporarium@lemm.ee 3 points 1 week ago

Thanks for sharing. I’m glad you found yourself and I’m sorry you thought that about yourself for so long. Can’t imagine

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