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Well, it finally happened to me. Somehow I now feel like crap for having a dick. I knew that at some point I wanted to get bottom surgery, but it hasn't been because I desperately wanted to cut of my dick and felt shit because I still have one, but because I knew I wanted a vagina. Yesterday evening it turned around and now I feel absolutely miserable for still having one. Why does my brain has to make my life even harder than it already is? This type of Dysphoria is kind of a next level. It (at least currently) doesn't really go away and noticing The source of my Dysphoria every time I move is next level crap.

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[โ€“] ncc21166@lemmy.blahaj.zone 7 points 5 days ago (1 children)

Your choice is completely valid and yours to make. I just don't want people to think it's either/or in the full and opposite direction. There are options for things like zero-depth or even nullification that don't require dilation or very much recovery time.

Some girls just have a penis I guess

And some have a vulva without anything under it, or nothing at all!

and zero-depth / vulvoplasties are even safer, cheaper, etc. - and you can get a full depth later if that really becomes necessary (though I personally recommend just getting full-depth vaginoplasty upfront if you think penetration is important to you, my point is just that a zero-depth doesn't rule out a full-depth later).