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So, I am a 21 year old male but when I was a kid about 8 maybe 9 l had this friend from church also male, who is a couple years younger than me. One day were sitting somewhere and he mentioned something about wanting to touch my butt, and he tried to grab it. And then I think I was playing with something and dropped it so I reached down to pick it up and he smacked me like four times rapidly. He seemed to find it amusing. I thought it was kind of weird for a bit but eventually I forgot about it and we remained cool friends. He hasn't acted that way since and this was over a decade ago. I know his grandma said he used to have a problem with seizures as a kid. He still goes to the church but not as often because he works now. Like I said, I hadn't even thought about it until like a month ago when I read an article about a celebrity who had been sexually abused as a kid. And it triggered me for some reason and has been kind of bothering me. I just wanted to know if this was an assault or just inappropriate childhood behavior.

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[–] Brkdncr@lemmy.world 4 points 1 day ago (1 children)

If you’ve been diagnosed with ocd then you should talk about this situation with your dr.

I’m not your dr, but if it were me in your situation I would categorize the event you described as regular assault and not SA. Additionally since it never happened again it was probably just a kid trying to figure something out in their own head. Maybe they saw a show where something similar happened for example.