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For context, I’m circumcised and expecting a son and my wife and I are torn about the circ. We’re American so from a cultural standpoint circumcision is the default choice. Thing is, there’s no real benefit besides practicing a religion we don’t believe in, and I’m uncomfortable about cutting the tip of my son’s dick off.

On the other side, I’ve met a guy who was bullied in high school so bad for it he got a circ as an adult. Apparently crazy painful recovery. I’ve also talked to women who are generally grossed out by uncircumcised men. I don’t want to make him feel like something’s wrong with him his whole life because I was uncomfortable with the idea.

From a moral standpoint I’m against it, but from a social and cultural standpoint I feel like I should do it? It’s a crappy situation. If there’s any uncircumcised American men who want to talk about their penis I’m all ears.

Edit: I really appreciate everyone’s responses I never expected to hear from so many people. With the decision hinging on social and cultural norms it’s been really helpful to be able to take the temperature like this. I obviously need to talk to my wife, but given the overwhelming support of dick hats I don’t thing we’re going to do it. Thanks, lemmings!

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[–] Azzu@lemmy.dbzer0.com 8 points 4 days ago (6 children)

Do you know how it feels to be uncircumcised?

[–] porcoesphino@mander.xyz -4 points 4 days ago (5 children)

No, I clearly don't know what it feels like for an uncircumcised person and nothing I have said has come close to that. I'm not pushing back on the idea that it might feel better for an uncircumcised person. I'm pushing back on an outspoken individual hoping to hear from more individuals on this thread

I honestly would be curious to see studies that people thought were trustworthy that showed it one way or another. Accounting for it in an adult is easy (ask before, ask after, large enough sample) but its not inconceivable that it's different when done on children (they heal better in general and the practice is relatively widespread) and I think a study that managed to do demonstrate difference there would be difficult. That said, most of what I saw at a glance seemed to indicate little change and the voices on this thread seem to be shouting it's a large change in feeling. It would be nice to be able to account for that difference. And I struggle a little with the idea that there is a large change in most individuals since that would imply it could be feeling a lot better and it already feels amazing enough that it already gets me into plenty of trouble.

[–] amorpheus@lemmy.world 4 points 4 days ago (4 children)

I honestly would be curious to see studies that people thought were trustworthy that showed it one way or another.

You only need to look a one fact: the only people defending the practice are people who it was done to.

[–] porcoesphino@mander.xyz 1 points 4 days ago

It just seems odd for the practice to have started in independently, in multiple places around the world, and to still be done for different reasons if that were a fact and not just a bias in framing (since a lot of people here seem to be strongly/angrily pushing a message). And that isn't me saying that the practice should exist, or that the effect doesn't exist, just that the practice gained momentum independently multiple times and both cutting up your child and lowering sexual pleasure are usually something that would slow down or stop that momentum. I guess there are plenty of counter examples, it's not hard to find cultural habits that run from weird to terrifying in other cultures so plenty have to exist in yours

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