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Oh fuck, I still have no idea....
Hopefully I'll have a plan for this digital era stuff when i become a parant
My parents limited me to like 30min to 1 hour of computer usage when I was like 8 and first had internet access
Then I remember from 12 and onwards, I basically had no restrictions... parent experienced the internet the same time as we did, tech illiterate, so they didn't know anything about how do parental control stuff...
But even after 12, mom did wanna turn off the wifi at night, especially before I started highschool, but sometimes I wanna stay up and I just sneak downstairs and turn it back on lol
Anyways... probably something like:
ban social media till at least 16, and for Youtube restrict to only a select few educational channels, maybe allow direct messaging with classmates, but I think all messages should get logged and sent to me at least till like 12 (am I too authoritarian?). Game time is limited to 30 minutes max; 1 hour on non-school days, at least till like age 10... then maybe be lenient if thing go well...
Politically extremist sites like 4chan would be part of the blocklist... aint no way I'd let that shit ruin my children.
About the porn stuff.... oh yea I heard about it in 5th grade and honestly that was probably wayyy to early for me... it was kinda... shocking....
I'd silently add blocklist for porn until like at least... idk 15 or 16... (is this reasonable? or am I just helicoptering?)... actually idk if I even wanna drop the blocklist till like 18...
Like I'm not gonna get mad if they managed to get access to it anyways... it just feels kinda weird from a parent's perspective to know your kids have access to those things that young... know what I mean?
Okay idk I feel like I'm gonna end up even more helicopter-y than my parents...
Idk its just... if hypothetically I have childen, I'd really wanna protect them (or at least try to), and then end up overprotective...
get them a laptop with no OS and a book about how to install an OS, and a usb with debian on it
Wanting to protect your kids and struggling with "sheltering vs free reign" type decisions is most of the job of parenting. Whether that is Internet or crossing the street or whatever. Parents who end up overprotective don't always start from a bad place and parents who end up excessively permissive don't always start from a good place. Most people just out there trying to do their best in the face of uncertainty.