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Wow, it's really like you have no idea what I've actually been through and experienced over the years of trying to do exactly that and persevering even in the face of rejection, ridicule, derision, and scorn.
Alone might be depressing, but at least it's peaceful, and I'm getting too old to rock the boat, especially now that I've attained a modicum of mental stability.
It's not just like that, it is that. But I also have trouble making friends.
I have one good friend who constantly irritates me and another I have tea with occasionally. I would like to have two or three friends, ideally people I like (this is surprisingly difficult).
I'm shocked to hear you've faced rejection, ridicule, derision, and scorn. The most I've faced is blank looks or text messages left unread. I really want to know what happened to bring about those responses.
Typical NT response. "It must be your fault. What did you do to deserve it? It couldn't be that society is programmed to reject anything they perceive as deviating from the norm. It couldn't be that!"
I rewrote that part like three times before giving up and just putting that. I'm aware of the ableism inherent in the statement, but please try to read my comments a little more charitably. I promise that will be a more accurate understanding.
I believe you and I don't blame you, but I am curious about these scenarios if you feel like talking about them.
If you could give me an example of the kinds of comments you would like to hear from me, that would actually be hugely helpful. I'm not as NT as you assume. :p
I don't feel like talking about them. They're the kinds of memories and interactions that I try to shove down whenever I think about them. Those painful cringes that hit like a dozen or two dozen times a day, random memories from all throughout my life, all adding up to reaffirm the conclusion is reached long ago that literally nothing I say or do will ever be accepted as "normal," no matter how hard it try to conform, or even especially when I try just being myself.
So no, I won't deliberately spend mental energy trying to remember specific interactions and putting them into words. It's like wack-a-mole, and there are thousands of them, so once I push down a particular memory it might be months or years before that specific one comes up again. My inner life is like a kaleidoscope of painful flashbacks.
I don't need to hear a specific comment from you. I'm sorry, but you're not gonna save me from myself. It's fine, that's not your responsibility. Thanks for understanding though. Most people don't exactly validate my struggle when I mention it.