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Hold on. Do you talk to and interact with this person in real life? Has this person done anything at all that might make you think they like you?
I do actually mostly in group settings. Yeah they have, but I don't have confidence that it means we would date
Ok, great. I understand the position you're in. It can get lonely being by yourself and can be a heavy weight. And just about everyone has been stung by rejection and it can hurt like hell. But it's so important to temper your expectations until you can draw things out naturally. And even if this person does like you and would like to date you, you're going to put a ton of pressure on them if you burst out and say "I love you" right away. And even if you're in a group with them it should be easy to find a moment when just the 2 of you are together and start a conversation about something. Or open a door for them, or offer them something you're eating. Be attentive but not overbearing. And then maybe see if they're open to doing something just with you. See a movie, play a video game together, go to a museum ... Just be cool. So instead of saying "I love you", say, "I had a great time". See what happens from there!
So flirting. Quite a bit people recommend I go the flirting route which seems perfectly acceptable. I just suck at flirting and I still communicate in a stiff and direct way
Good luck.