I have a baby and I've been real wary of posting her pictures on social media. My fiance is Inna similar boat but more OK with big tech (or at least, doesn't have the tech background to look for alternatives).

My family lives far away. Right now, we just text pictures every week. But I'd like to have a place where we could share the pictures, and maybe everytime we share it'd send an email to those that want to see them updating - something they should be able to set (my mom would want notifications every time, my siblings might prefer a weekly digest).

Basically, Google Photos would work. Instagram or Facebook might be better. But I don't want big tech feeding my baby to AI.

I have a post covid laptop (Dell Inspiron) that I don't use much. Occasionally, I do use it, could I self host on that? I don't think I can justify a service being more than $30ish a month.

I'm thinking about creating an instance of Pixelfed (or whatever its actually called)

I obviously want it to be locked the fuck down. My sister in law is having a baby soon too, I think if they like our photo sharing method, they might want to use ours. Would I be able to give them control to choose who can view pictures of their baby? I've like how on Lemmy the owner of the instance has to individually approve people, but I wouldn't want to be doing that for my sister in laws family - just give her and hubby access to approve and deny.

Is paid web hosting the better and less techy way to go about this? I don't work in tech, and I don't have lots of time to troubleshoot, so the easier the better, if there's a trustworthy service for my needs too. I'm not too intimidated by a more difficult/techy setup, but I want low maintenance. If I do use a web hosting service, does anyone have recommendations for ethical hosts that won't just feed our data to AI? Obviously not using AWS.