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i kinda want to go to a bar and socialize with strangers, but i have like no idea what im doing. i didnt really before transitioning but now i feel completely lost. if anyone could give me like a basic outline of the social etiquette it would help so much. i realize this is probably the most autistic question i could ask. it gives me so much anxiety even going to a bar, let alone trying to talk to someone.

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[–] eestileib@sh.itjust.works 10 points 5 days ago (1 children)

There are party bars and locals bars. Locals bars you show up, be polite, and wait for them to include you. You have to establish yourself as someone who comes in often.

Party bars are loud and have tons of people at peak hours and are where people tend to go to just bump into people and flirt.

[–] gandalf_der_12te@lemmy.blahaj.zone 1 points 5 days ago (1 children)

yeah also local bars tend to be dead. nobody can afford going out to drink beer for $8 when it costs $1 at home these days.

[–] eestileib@sh.itjust.works 1 points 4 days ago

You recognize the locals bars 'cause they're dumps.

If half the people here aren't hanging out smoking in a busted up parking lot, you're paying too much.