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Someone I live with insists on calling me "bro" and "dude", despite my repeated pleas for cessation, citing ideolect as a defence.

I get that "bro" and "dude" are part of their vocabulary, but it hurts. Am I in the wrong here?

P.S. Is this the right community for this kind of question?

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[–] SatansDaughter@quokk.au 20 points 4 days ago (2 children)

No, you're allowed to be reffered to how you want

This sums it up. Man, woman, cis, trans… it doesn’t matter. If you don’t want to be called something, it’s reasonable to ask that they stop.

[–] neuracnu@lemmy.blahaj.zone 7 points 4 days ago (2 children)

Bingo, this.

If you don't like it, and you've explained that you don't like it, and they keep doing it, it's basically verbal abuse. Treat it as such.

[–] strawberry_enjoyer42@lemmy.blahaj.zone 3 points 4 days ago (1 children)

This might seems strange, but... how should I treat verbal abuse?

[–] neuracnu@lemmy.blahaj.zone 3 points 4 days ago (1 children)

I'm certainly not a therapist or any kind of expert on domestic abuse, but I found some strategies on what to do about it:

  • confront the abuser (if possible)
  • write down exactly what was said to you and when, and also when you asked them to stop. Even if it's been a while, start counting now.
  • talk to a mental health provider or support group

https://health.clevelandclinic.org/verbal-abuse

Thanks, I'll try these things.