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Not techniques I use personally, but different forms of manipulation that one could (but shouldn't) use. You should look out for:
A few manipulation techniques that should not be used. If you see someone doing these things, assume they have an ulterior motive.
lol. im not a big gift giver so mine are always out of no where. I don't believe in reciprical gifting or what I view as gifting without thought or does not make sense. To me gifting comes from opportunity. I come across something or am getting rid of something that would be perfect for someone else so I give it to them. Not 100% though as I will give gifts for events but then I prefer to do food or drink.
The opposite also works: ask someone for a small favor, and they'll be more kindly disposed to you in the future. You've made being kind to you a part of their identity and behavior.
A bunch of people used this on me.
It started small. "Can I have something to eat?", "Can you take me to the doctor?", "Could you change my diaper?", next thing I know I'm paying college tuition.
The last two are just helping each other :D
You probably couldn't call it friendship if you never hang out for the sake of it, but that is just the "I know someone" type of relationship