Volunteering
this post was submitted on 07 Jan 2024
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Clubs and volunteering. Even at a homeless shelter or similar.
Volunteering is especially powerful because you are implicitly "supposed" to be there. Your presence is already explained and accepted, due to the service mission of the volunteer organization.
Therefore you have already achieved the first step of building friendships: shared experience, and shared time spent. Now that those are established you can step out beyond that to get drinks or pursue a then discovered shared hobby, like cycling or hiking or gaming whatever.
Honestly, besides family, everyone I know outside of work, including my partner, came through sobriety-related meetings.
Outside of that resource (and assuming I was normal and not drinking myself to death), I'd say I would need to be volunteering or involved in some cooperative activity.
The friends don't come from the activity, either. Not in sobriety, nor otherwise. The friends come from showing up early and staying late. The people of character are going to be the ones keeping the activity happening for everyone else.