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What bothers me is people who use your name constantly in conversation. "Mosspiglet, I saw this movie last night. Yeah, Mosspiglet, it was really good."

yes, it makes me really uncomfortable! I had a friend who would always say my name while talking to me, and it felt somehow... diminutive? Like she was trying to be motherly? I don't know.

I despise hearing/reading my name. So much so that when I found a book series I loved, but the MC shared my name I actually put down the paper version, grabbed the e-book, and did a global find/replace on all 12 books to remove my name.

I use names when specificity is needed. E.g., if I'm in a room with two other people, and I want to address only one of them, I'll use a name (or nickname if there is one) to clarify who I am addressing.

If I'm in a room with only one other person, then using a name to address them would be redundant, unless I am not getting their attention otherwise (e.g., they're engrossed in a book).

I think you're just autistic, buddy. This is not typical behavior for people that are not neurodivergent. The tell is that you get "oddly angry" when someone uses your name when they're strangers. Good luck navigating life with this one.

Some people do this to convey that they are listening and paying attention. However, when overused, (like saying sometimes name 5 times in a sentence in a one to one conversation) I have always found it disingenuous and try to avoid doing it myself.

Chiming in with the 'you might be neurodivergent' crowd.

Absolutely typical.

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I also am like this but it’s partially trauma. The general agreed upon “advice” is that if this isn’t related to trauma it’s because of neurodivergence, at least that’s what professionals have told me. My issue is from both.

Names exist specifically so other people have something to call you. There is no point in having a name if it isn't explicitly for the purpose of being used by other people.

When a customer reads my name tag in an attempt to be friendly

I'm just bad with remembering names so I've learned to just not use them.

Yes it is weird. It is your name, what else should they call you? “Cat with the fluffy eyebrows”?

I assumed the unspoken rule is rule is that the client can give my name so the client can later refer to me in complaints.

The call center would certainly now you took the call without needing your name, but you are partially correct. You giving your name humanizes your interaction with the client so the client is less inclined to submit a complaint. Also so much of customer satisfaction with outages and issues is achieved just by having someone address the issue.

I hate being called "sir" it sounds pretentious as fuck. Use my name, its far more personable and normal. Titles are like dress codes - completely made up theater that people play along with.

In the event of a call center scenario, it wouldn't even be hard to track down who took the call whether they remembered my name or not, so I still wouldn't care.

The only time it would be weird/annoying is if the person so constantly using my name instead of a pronoun, or if they're using a tone to imply negativity toward it.

I dont hate it, but it's wierd enough to me; so that i only ever do this to other when i am angry, with elevated voice

It feels more personal to use names. I use them to remove distance between and the other person. I wouldn't like that for a sales call either, but otherwise I think it's important for building relationships.

I do the same "hey man, what's up?" Because it takes my brain a second to use the search function. I know their name but I can't come up with it in time for passing chat. So "hey man" comes off as less of a dick move than just standing there staring blankly at them.

It depends on how you define weird, but this phenomenon has a name (if that gives you a clue as to how common or uncommon it might be): Alexinomia

I also not only struggle with not feeling weird when I hear my name, but I also just avoid using other people’s names to the point that people get upset with me when I am trying to tell them about things involving multiple people because I will simply never name any of them. It makes listening to me rather confusing for others, and I’m not even entirely aware I’m doing it. And I die a little bit inside whenever I’m in a situation that requires me to address someone by name.

Might be worth looking into Alexinomia for some more information if this is bothering you.

Yeah, I fuckin hate it when people use my name while talking. It feels very awkward and creepy to me, especially if they use it often. I don’t wanna hear that. I know who I am.

yes

Oh my gosh, I genuinely thought I was the only one who felt this way.

I've even seen people online in smaller communities referring to each other by their first names instead of their user handles and it always made me cringe a little for some reason haha

The bright side being that I'm completely immune to "neurolinguistic programming" or whatever weird shit manipulators are taught to use. Every single time I hear my name emphasized or repeated, it's like I can hear the slash 8-bit sfx and my HP going down.

Do this enough times and I will begin to avoid you like an actual viral contagion, bwahaha

Have you asked yourself why you feel this way? Names literally exist to be used. No cultural norm I am aware of prohibits their use, other than it would be weird in limited contexts like if you called your parents by their names. But even that is not universal. A stranger using your name is not disrespectful in the least, so getting mad about that seems like a problem.

Everybody to me is "Hey Y'all"