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Ways to help someone in this situation? (lemm.ee)

submitted 1 day ago by GB19@lemm.ee to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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someone I’ve known for a while has been quite hostile and closed off. they will get into relationships (friendships), and act like these people are the greatest in the world to avoid abandonment.

to not get hurt, they will later decide they actually don’t like these people and “sabotage” the relationship.

I believe that may or may not have happened to me. he is also quite bullied, so I feel bad for him. some people say there’s nothing I can do to help. he doesn’t use any electronics or socials, so I told his mom I wanted to be there for him.

She said she told him what I said.

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[–] ZWQbpkzl@hexbear.net 5 points 1 day ago

Sounds like classic Borderline Personality Disorder to me. I'm not a psychologies but: Fear of abandonment causing love-bomb to sabotage cycles is like the definition of BPD