I'm going to invite you to another angle, and it's one with a premise that people are still scratching their heads over -- forewarning: no matter how honest or objective you try to be about these subjects, this is one of those things where you can't have a public discussion about it and come out unscathed. Even if people don't really have a formed opinion of their own. All well.
Natural selection is still taking place. It was never about "idiots" dying off. That's a bit of a misconception. So let's drop that rhetoric -- even if you wish to keep that opinion. Remember that people can still have plenty of children before doing something terribly stupid and then dying as a result.
In fact, natural selection is in overdrive and stronger than ever. Once you try to grapple with that you'll need a few more pieces to see a more clear picture of why I believe this. Now, for you down voters: I'm not advocating an idea here --even natural selection-- or stating facts so much as trying to understand and communicate the way I see things. If you can't understand the nuance in that, then feel free to continue -- the button is below.
I'll begin by addressing the drivers of modern natural selection in the order of what I believe to be the most impactful. Beware that none of this is to discredit or find fault in either men or women -- but the concept of natural selection, and all of its woes, are directly tied to having successfully reproduced.
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Women now have more access to information and communication tools than ever, and that's a good thing -- as are women. I shouldn't have to state that I believe these to be good things, but here we are. Women are, now more than ever, demanding more value from life at all angles. Including, if not especially, men.
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Social Media. All these things are tied to my first point. Women, especially younger women, have a better idea of the sorts of things they desire to the point where it will even cause them to feel a decline in their well-being for not having access to it. This may help inform them in a way that they develop other life goals or objectives, rather than participating in a less than desirable relationship.
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Family Traditions: Less women are being forced into marriages, whether the marriage is arranged or simply obeying their families desire to marry as the families see fit. Self agency -- good.
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Everything else. There are many more drivers -- including things not related to women, I just covered what I believe to be the top three -- I feel I need to state here again, none of this is to blame or find fault in anyone -- man or woman, or anyone else. It's simply an attempt to try to make sense of the world around me.
Why I believe the above can be evidenced by a couple of simple metrics: a steep decline in birth rates across most of the world, and the ~~male~~ loneliness epidemic. This may not fit comfortably into the idea that death is the main driver of natural selection, but as I've already stated, I never believed that it was. Whether natural selection is the correct model to fit this world view into or not and the unpopularity of that model; that would be a different discussion altogether and I'd rather just fit this into the framework of the discussion than have a disclaimer before every sentence for internet points, as I feel I've already had to add too many.
That's nice. But.. what's that got to do with the price of fish? Or the price of tea in China?