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[–] thebestaquaman@lemmy.world 5 points 19 hours ago* (last edited 19 hours ago)

Wrong is a bit hard for me, maybe because "every happy couple is the same, while every unhappy one is unhappy in their own unique way" (para-quote from Tolstoy I think).

To me, I know what I have is right because I honestly feel like every joy we share is doubled, while every problem we share is halved. It's a cliche, but I honestly mean it. When I'm happy with her, it makes me twice as happy just to see that she is happy. I honestly feel like the greatest joy in the world to me is to see her be happy. Likewise, if something is wrong, I want to help her in a way I've never experienced with anyone else, and can feel in my whole body that we're in this together.

This doesn't mean that we never get mad at each other, but when we do, we've always ended up remembering that, at the end of the day, we're the most important thing in the world to each other. Whatever issues we've had, we're in it together to solve them.

To round off with Tolstoy: I guess "wrong" would be if any of the above didn't apply for whatever reason, that reason being unique in every case.