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cross-posted from: https://lemmy.ml/post/30817458

It is becoming increasingly clear to me that I need to expand my social circle. Most people I'm in a position to see in real life regularly are filled with a lot of brainworms: owning property is seen as a goal that one would be crazy not to pursue, the police and military are seen as sacred institutions, and I even know a few trumpanzees. I need to make new connections, but I'm a weird suburbanite shut-in with a weird demeanor that is offputting to normal people, and I'm worried that trying to meet new friends through my existing friends will just further entrench me into the petite bourgeois crackershpere.

How do you meet based people when you're just far enough from the nearest city for regular travel back and forth to be inconvenient and are bad at making friends in the first place?

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[–] happybadger@hexbear.net 12 points 4 days ago* (last edited 4 days ago)

That's more or less how it is for me. To list the specific people on my crew (that OP would be directly interacting with locally if they did this):

  1. Naive socialist who has never read any theory. Intrinsically understands that environment is a human construct downstream of development. Will read anything I give them and actually think about it.

  2. General socialist who studies political science. Not particularly environmentally motivated but gets it when I describe anything from tearing down Jane Fonda attack posters to the importance of a particular plant species.

  3. Non-political person who materially and ideologically aligns with socialism.

  4. Non-political person who materially and ideologically aligns with socialism.

  5. Non-political person who materially and ideologically aligns with socialism and is at least familiar with the DSA.

  6. My boss, seemingly non-political, who at least understands the importance of diverse native green space and hates ornamental plants.

  7. My boss's boss, maybe vaguely conservative, who is willing to listen to issues of progressive urban green space versus regressive as long as it doesn't neuter her ability to advocate for the budget required for that.

I've stopped giving a fuck about saying what I feel. Worst case scenario my boss can cost me money before I earn way more money doing the same work. Climate change is real, you and I are going to die as a result if we're "lucky", anyone doing apologia for the old system deserves death. Death. As much as I express this exact thing with as extreme a sentiment I feel, no one there has pushed back. We just get it even if we don't know how to express it. If you can express it in a way that resonates with that person, and it's so much easier with environmentalists, they just see it as refreshing that someone is willing to say the words.