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Notice how every single "kink" you listed wasn't consenting? Those aren't kinks, they are crimes.
What two consenting adults enjoy is neither of our business but they shouldn't feel bad about enjoying it.
You can still be repulsed, but that's a you problem. Unless someone else is making it your problem by discussing it when you obviously don't like it.
I do agree with this in principle, but the line gets somewhat blurred around consent when there's things like people opening a conversation by telling you that they're into a particular type of kink or have such and such a relationship situation and how great it is, in an obvious bid to just boast about it, as if having lots of sex, and weird sex at that, was by-default admirable.
Maybe it's something they personally value, and that's fine I guess, but just because they think it's super cool that they do these kinky things, does not mean that everybody does.
And no, I'm not saying that I've been in a situation where somebody said "hi, my name is Carl and I love sucking girls' toes" right off the bat. That is obviously too explicit to be socially acceptable.
But there are situations where, say, you'll meet a couple and they immediately launch into how they're all about the ethical non-monogamy and polyamory and they have a daddy or a dungeon master or cuck shed or something that's just bizarrely out of left field that I never asked about and frankly don't want to know, and my opinion is that this should be seen as equally explicit as Carl's situation.
But this, like my original post, is starting to devolve into a personal rant rather than a generalized sentiment, so I'll stop.
The situation you described is effectively what I mean in the last sentence.
There's a difference between something being worthy of shame (your initial claim) and being admirable (what you're now implying the alternate position is). It's value neutral, maybe a bit on the plus side because I like that other people are living enjoyable lives.
It feels more like rationalizing a disgust response and saying the problem is external. You might recognize this as the same logic of homophobia and transphobia. I know this is coming from a dick head on the internet that is acting contentiously to your opinion, but I hope you'll reflect a little bit here. You seem well meaning.