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What kind of deep conversations do you want? You want drug “deep” conversations, or you want “here’s why everything is fucked” deep?
Have you tried engaging people in conversation?
Can’t expect to jump into a deep conversation off the bat like “what are your thoughts on the socio-economic implications of the death of the 3rd place and how we could restore it?”
You gotta start with small talk. Helps introduce both parties to each other and feel out if you’re someone they want to talk to. You can get into deeper conversations naturally if you’re not weird about it.
Far too often, "deep talk" online devolves into an ideological slugfest. What has become rare is Listening and Empathizing. Asking a question that illustrates a certain perspective becomes a debate point and then a bitter disagreement. It's civility that's in decline. IMO.
Online, absolutely in decline
those things require reciprocity.
and that's the rub, everyone wants it but nobody is willing to give it freely.
i used to have cool convos online and irl with people, but those dates disappeared with the rise of social media.