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I’ve been with my boyfriend since 2024. Our relationship has to be on the down low / an open secret because dating isn’t permissible among his people. His family says they really like me, but they’d never accept me as his wife since I’m not Arab, maybe as a second wife, but the first wife has to be someone they approve of. I don’t want to be a second wife. I’m with him despite all of this because he treats me great, fucks me good, and gets me (he’s very open-minded and chill, and I feel fully comfortable with him). But I know he won’t go against his family for me because of $$$.

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[–] HubertManne@piefed.social 1 points 1 day ago

This would 100% come down to you. Are you good with enjoying the present or do you want to work toward the future relationship wise. If you enjoy the present then you have a nice span of time to have in your life, but working toward the future requires you are working toward it which you kinda can't do while in another relationship unless of course that is the kind of relationships you want. In the modern world heck its almost scary to be like married with kids in the 20's but if you start that in your 40's you will be retiring just as your kids are becoming independent and might need you the most. On the other hand folks who do get that going in their 20's can have grandkids by the time they are not bringing in an income. From my experience if you serious and you take care of yourself you can hopefully find someone within a 5 year span of being serious about committing and such. Now granted im also someone who does not have kids and would recommend to folks not to have them because I feel humanity is going in the wrong direction.