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everyones sorta a loser because unless your the best there are other folk or folks out there who can do what you do and even better. Thing is people can also be the worst at things or have no talent. People value things at different levels and sometimes that can be things they are good and interested in and sometimes not. Some things are not as showy or maybe generally spotlighted in life. I did not see you mention any soft skills like listening or being honest or nice. Not everything is about physical activities. Someone can be pius in ways but not be a priest. Those things assoicated with males or females sometimes are expected but plenty of folks won't fit the mold. This is why red green had "If the women don't find you handsome, they should at least find you handy" but some men are not handy (honestly me. I mean I can be a bit for certain things) but they have some other things that someone can love. I would think less about what makes you worthy and think more about whats important to you. Let them decide if you have the things important to them.