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Email ownership, I give up. (lemmy.today)
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I give up.

I tried left and right to try to install an email server so I could degoogle my life.

But therechnical barrier is thick and Google keeps adding more to it. Forget it. I can't even get thru the installation process much less trying to get my shit off Google.

I figure, I don't actually have any need for my email addresses. Just like my phone number. I never call anyone. I'm going to discourage my kids from using email at all. I'll remind everyone I know that I don't use email at every opportunity I get just like I remind people to not call me and that my phone number is not available.

Between spammers and Google, I just don't need this headache in my life. My mom is much less technically savvy than the average pet. So Google will just siphon her data and when the megabits are full then you just delete the old stuff.

You don't need it. No one will spend their life reading your emails when you're gone or watching your videos or listening to your recordings or viewing your photos. There's no need to worry about just deleting the pile of shit you've accumulated. I'm this done.

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[–] ampersandrew@lemmy.world 1 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Maybe you said so in some lingo that's foreign to me, but what upsets that reputation? What kinds of configurations do they not like, and why is it not set and forget? Sorry for asking for a dissertation, but I never had any idea e-mail could be more complicated than set and forget.

[–] fuzzzerd@programming.dev 2 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago) (1 children)

There are a few standards now, DKIM, SFP, DMARC, maybe more now, I don't know. If you send emails without these configured correctly the reputation of the domain and IP are lowered.

Past some internal threshold, you go from inbox to spam, and from spam to silently dropped.

Further, if you send too many emails in a short time, or more emails than usual, your reputation is lowered.

I'm sure there's more, but these are the kind of things that make it difficult. You make a config error, don't realize, then people start not getting your emails. You fix the config, but there's no way to get the reputation back and nobody at Microsoft or Google to ask to re-evaluate you.

[–] ampersandrew@lemmy.world 1 points 1 week ago

Gotcha, thanks for taking the time to humor me. I never would have guessed.