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That's what normies don't get about introverts: we're not above small talk, we're above small talk when it's all there is. Of course we'll ask the loved one how their day has been, and the fact is we'll actually shut the fuck up and listen to it all, and when things become serious we'll talk to say meaningful things.
Else, there's folie à deux echolalia, shitty jokes, movie lines, comfortable silence, or skipping it all to 'scorching hot sex'.
I'm all for small talk. It's the superfluous small talk just to kill dead air I hate. I'd rather sit in an elevator and say nothing than talk about how much rain we're about to get this afternoon.
Thats insert x location weather for ya'! don't like it, Just wait five minutes! *proceeds to slap knee'
No I'm sorry, interiority cannot be tolerated or respected. You're doing it wrong.
Yeah, I mean don't ask me how I'm doing if you don't want to hear the answer. Don't look at me weird when I say "not great" if you're the one who asked!
I'm not obliged to say "Great, thanks!" when you ask me how I am. I'm not doing great, and I'm not gonna lie about it just to make you feel better about a question that you asked!
That's what I mean when I say I hate smalltalk. It's so insincere, and exhausting to carry on day-to-day with no deeper conversation.